"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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weird vibes

search1ng

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Hey,
Most of you probably know what I'm talking about. Anyone come across those guys where you see them and straight off the bat you get these weird vibes from them? Maybe I feel threatened by the guy, honestly I'm not sure what it is but as soon as i saw him i knew i didn't like him - i know the feeling is mutual. At the moment i avoid him and stuff but as we're co-workers, it's not like i can avoid him all the time. It's nothing like hate or anything, we talk...when we have to and we're pleasant with each other, but give me an excuse and I'd probably want to aggressively beat him into the ground, thing is, i don't hate him or anything, he hasn't really done anything to offend or piss me off. Maybe i need anger management classes, haha.

Anyway, this guy, to me he comes across as arrogant, kind of selfish, maybe it's cause he looks like a rat, somewhat feels like he's copying me, my style, dress sense etc. Anyway, you guys ever encounter this?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cry For Love

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Any tension can be eased by joyful communication. As long as you manage to create a real desire to learn to know him you can at least become acquainted with him.
 

search1ng

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honestly, i think i get along with people in life really well; decent social circle, girls find me funny, whatever. I tried to like this guy, i did what i usually do - usually works, this guy didn't seem to want to reciprocate. It honestly feels like he's trying to prove his worth or something. Like he's the king of the world, in that arrogant sort of way.
 
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