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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

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Weird technique - opinions wanted

Magnatolia

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Hi guys,

Well today I had this new girl start at the office and I couldn't get up the nerves to ask her to lunch - I know, stupid. So I grabbed my balls, literally and squeezed and all of a sudden my original fear that was holding me back was gone. As soon as I let go I went straight up to her and asked (she'd brought lunch with her though :D).

Has anyone ever had success with those techniques where you imagine a feeling (usually used to bring back the feelings of a happy moment), and do you think it would work to remember the feeling I got above. I don't particularly want to squeeeze em everytime I get stuck esp in public :D.

Anyway, in all serious, if there's someone out there in my position where they can't make a move try it. I'm the type of person who can stress and try forcing myself to make even a friendly approach to an attractive girl. I'd been sweating for about 5 mins then I was free.

So what do you think?
 

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FM 3321

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I know that feeling pretty well but I think of how I feel when I'm asking one of the guys to lunch. It's pretty damn easy but when it comes to a girl it's different. Why should it be?

Hey, Joe....lets go to lunch. Mike, let's hit up that burger joint around the corner. Yo Steve...what are you doing for lunch?

Now I think of how I feel asking those guys to lunch and apply it to asking a girl out to lunch.

Hey, Sarah....lets go to lunch. Vanessa, let's hit up that burger joint around the corner. Yo Rachel...what are you doing for lunch?

I just keep it in perspective that I'm asking them out to lunch because I'm hungry and want to invite them along, not because I want to take them home and fvck their brains out even though that's what I eventually want to do. I asked a girl out to lunch last week that I met at the gym and I could feel that tense feeling coming up but I had to reframe my mind that it's no big deal when I ask one of the boyz to lunch.

Make sense? That's how I try to think of it but maybe someone else has a better idea than I do.
 

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Dude, that's funny as hell! ROFL! Hey, whatever works. lol Don't sqeeze too hard. you might pop them ****s!
 

flippinfreak

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LMFAO... Most people make tell you to make anchorsin your hands or with an object or smell. Never thought of literally grabbing my own balls.

Just looking back, the times I have done the craziest things is right after I joked around by grabbing my balls. "Dude there is no way your going to go over to that girl and lick her neck, look at her, she's probably got guys all over the place that'll kick your ass for her" *I put on a big smile, stand from the table and grab my balls*
 
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