"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Weird Situation

Westwind

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Lately there's been a certain girl who's just been driving me crazy. During class she'll totally be checking me out. And i've pursued her after class and talked to her and but i kept forgetting to get her number.

Well i find her facebook thing and add her. She adds me back. I decide to send her a message asking if she would want to hang after class sometime and get something to eat. A pretty harmless message. She never got back to me. But continued to check me out.



One day i was running late for one of my classes, apparently i wasen't the only one. Because that same girl passes right in front of me in class and says " we're going to be late". But instead of sayin anything i just figure i'll wait untill after class. So after class i track her down and she totally ignores me.


i can get the idea that well i guess i kinda ignored her in the hall when i was running late so she ignored me. But can anyone explain the mixed feelings she sending to me. I mean she's a hb8.


I would love you input. Thanks
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJ Wrangler

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Just initiate! And DONT ask her out over facebook, myspace, txt message until you guys get a little more comfortable with each other;

Walk up to her and say something along the lines,
"look, we're going to hang out on Saturday, so give me you number and ill let you know the time and place."

Be the man in this situation, take charge and if she blows you off, or ignores this attempt, "NEXT", not the girl you want to be with...
 

Westwind

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OK that's good advice, but i don't understand her behavior. Why would she be acting like that to me.
 

Randallpink83

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cause she is a girl... they act weird.

especially when a guy weirds them out.... Be cool... Go cool, go fun, go social, go playful go go go :rolleyes:
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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SedctveConcptns

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Initiate, Make her laugh! small talk her for a minute...not to long and then try not to "Ask her out." tell her that if she smiles like that again your going to have to take her out. then ask her if she prefers dancing or dinner this way your not asking her out but asking her what she likes more. it also shows her you're confident and have a sense of humor
 
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