Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Weird situation, need some advice

plaqueman

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Ok, here is the situation, At my gym there is this girl who works at the front desk, i would say she is a 9 -9.5. Anyway i know who she is because her mom is good friends with my Mom and Her dad is going to be one of my instructors at the academy. I notice this girl is giving me all the signals that shes interested, however im alittle leary because of the fact her mom is friends with mine and if something goes wrong with the relationship her dad pretty much has the ability to make my life hell for 6 months.

Ok so today im at the gym and this girls mom goes " You know what ? My daughter thinks your cute, she was asking me about you the other day, Dont tell her i told you because she is shy and would kill me if i she found out i was telling you this." So im thinking about asking this girl out, what would you guys do in this situation ? Im somewhat flustered ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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umm, go get to know her? lol.

go to her when she's alone man, chat her up. say hello. introduce yourself. easy. since she already likes you, it shouldn't be so hard.

sure it might go wrong, or it might not. you might miss out on a good oppurtunity. you'll never know until you go for it.
 
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Her mom is telling you to ask her out - the mom approves of you already, so the father is a non-issue, you can always blame the mom!:)

The girl likes you and you now know this - it doesn't get easier than this!!!!!!

Make a gym-desk approach!
 

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Thanks for the advice, Yeah it is always nice to know the girl is interested before you make the move... lol hopefully things stay cool between us while im in the academy and i wont have to deal with her dad hating me and telling the drill instructors to kill me... but oh well i guess it will make me stronger :)
 

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OK here is the update i go in and talk with the girl, i open up with small talk and then progress to say how bout we do something thing next week, she blushes and says im sorry but i have a boyfriend, i smiled and was like ahh well, she then goes but weve been together for so long and i dont know long the relationship will last things are not that good at the moment. I just smiled and said hey i will see you around... WTF do i do next ? Should i give up on this girl, im confused
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I believe you did the right thing, DJ's dont have time for little girls who don't know what they want. Now the only thing you should do is wait for her to pursue you again and I believe she will. Just contiue to be friendly but act indifferent and you'll make her BF dissapear.
 

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Originally posted by LouieVaton Don
I believe you did the right thing, DJ's dont have time for little girls who don't know what they want. Now the only thing you should do is wait for her to pursue you again and I believe she will. Just contiue to be friendly but act indifferent and you'll make her BF dissapear.
Right on.
 
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