"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Weird situation need help asap

dhizzyballuh

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I've been fat all my life..,up until about august of last year...I worked my ass of and lost bodyfat and gained alot of muscle (granted I'm still a bit flabby)
I went from 5'10 240lbs to 6'1 183 lbs with 14% bodyfat

So yea a big transformation
The problem is I am still stuck with that fat boy mentality..I'm always self conscious about my appearance and I have low confidence socially...
But when I'm in a comfortable environment (friends party, school) I tend to be a bit more social when I have a friend around...but when I try and talk to a girl I fell retarded and akward ...
I play alot of videogames and have almost no social life, I have alot of friends but they are not "close friends"
I want to completely transform my social life, but I have no idea where to start...I've been reading some of the progress journals and they are really inspiring...please help me! I want my last 2 years of highschool to be remembered for the rest of my life!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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AlexLefty

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Lets see some pics of you as you are right now. Facebook maybe?
 

NorwegianDJ

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You stated all your problems yourself, I'll give you the solutions that you dont seem to want to touch upon.

You have 14% bodyfat. Do research and hit the gym 3-4x a week. Find a nice, low calorie diet and stay away from simple carbs. You've done it before, and this time, it's not as much to lose, and then you can start bulking up.
Being fat in highschool is not ideal. It's less ideal than being skinny.

You also want to change your self-image about this. Everything under 15% is acceptable, but like 6-8% and muscular is ideal I think.
Do not procrastinate everything else, just because you're not "Slim enough" or "Bulked up enough", that does NOT help.

It's mostly in your mind, as you said. You're just resisting change.

It's probably awkward because you feel its awkwards, and then she feels it. Force yourself to talk to more chicks, it's pretty much the only way.

I can highly identify with the videogame part. I used to be a "pro gamer" before I left norway. Ive almost quit gaming, and Ive started going out, that was simply 2 variables that needed to be changed.

You wanna transform your social life? Then be social. Thats it. Going out will really change you, just look at me after I started going out.
Going out and being social will solve a lot of your problems. There is almost a direct correlation between how much you go out and how much you improve and how many chicks you get.

You simply have to take charge of your own life Now.
 
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