One on One
Master Don Juan
I had a really weird night last night and learned a lot. I could go on for pages, but I'll keep it brief.
8:30 - I call up a girl I'm interested in to talk for a bit and tell her about my plans to go clubbing tonight. I felt like I was prying and interviewing her during this call. I was given numerous opportunities to have good conversation with her, but I was stuck on trying to meet up with her at a club. I have been way too brief with her on the phone.
Lesson: Don't be so cold and calculating. Take an interest in a girl's life and show it. Sure, don't hang on the phone forever, but don't expect to get anywhere if you don't talk to her.
10:00 - In the car with my friend and his girlfriend on the way to the club. My friend asks me what I think of his girl. WTF?? Right in front of her. I refrain from asking and I think it's kinda weird that my friend would ask that. Later though I learned why he might have done that.
Lesson: My friend was too blunt here. Don't be that blunt
11:00 - We arrive at the club. I ask the bouncer if we are early enough to get in for free with our passes. He is stuck up and rude like most bouncers and tells me, "if you get your IDs out fast enough."
Question: Do you even talk to bouncers at all? I've found they usually like to stand around and stick their chest out like they are on some power trip.
11:30 - We're in the club and I feel kinda cramped. It's a small place, plus I'm not exactly sure how to talk with my friend with his girlfriend around. I don't know her so it's weird. She excuses herself to the bathroom. Now, my friend goes on to explain to me how he is ending the relationship with her!! Apparently, they haven't been getting along well for weeks! I had no idea.
12:00 - Around this time, this girlfriend of his apparently is really mad at my friend for no good reason. She moves away from him and stands by me and starts talking to other guys to make him jealous. She encourages me to dance with her!! What? No, I can't dance with my friend's girlfriend! What the hell have I gotten myself into?? I try to persuade her to dance with my friend, but she is apparently mad at him - again, for no real reason.
Question - What the hell is going on here? She is just trying to make my friend jealous, right?
12:30 - I decide we should leave. It's been uncomfortable being in between their squabble.
1:45 - I get home and get online. The girl who I called earlier and had that too brief convo with is online and asks me why I am home so early. I talk to her for a while and make sure to actually talk to her this time. I get disconnected. She calls me up on the phone after about 10 minutes because we hadn't finished talking.
I have the best convo I've ever had with her!
We actually had a deep conversation for maybe the first time and I think I subconsciously did some SS on her. She took interest in my life, where I live, what I do with all my free time, and invited me out to party on Thursday. I asked her about some places she had lived and here's something I have to ask about:
Was the following some type of pattern I did on her?
I recall that she lived in southern California and we talk about that. I mention that I would love to visit their someday and I'd like to learn to surf. "Wouldn't that be fun?," I ask her. I ask if she ever surfed there, but she hadn't. She went on to tell me, though, that she loves boogie boarding and stuff and agrees it would be a lot of fun to surf.
Tell me, is that SS??? I feel so proud of myself right now if it is!!
Bottom line is I thought I was way too brief with this girl, but I was too hard on myself. She initiated contact with me later that night and we had a great conversation.
It was a really weird night with my friend's girlfriend acting all flaky and ****, but I learned a lot. Thanks for reading! I'm sure I forgot some things that I will remember later on.
8:30 - I call up a girl I'm interested in to talk for a bit and tell her about my plans to go clubbing tonight. I felt like I was prying and interviewing her during this call. I was given numerous opportunities to have good conversation with her, but I was stuck on trying to meet up with her at a club. I have been way too brief with her on the phone.
Lesson: Don't be so cold and calculating. Take an interest in a girl's life and show it. Sure, don't hang on the phone forever, but don't expect to get anywhere if you don't talk to her.
10:00 - In the car with my friend and his girlfriend on the way to the club. My friend asks me what I think of his girl. WTF?? Right in front of her. I refrain from asking and I think it's kinda weird that my friend would ask that. Later though I learned why he might have done that.
Lesson: My friend was too blunt here. Don't be that blunt
11:00 - We arrive at the club. I ask the bouncer if we are early enough to get in for free with our passes. He is stuck up and rude like most bouncers and tells me, "if you get your IDs out fast enough."
Question: Do you even talk to bouncers at all? I've found they usually like to stand around and stick their chest out like they are on some power trip.
11:30 - We're in the club and I feel kinda cramped. It's a small place, plus I'm not exactly sure how to talk with my friend with his girlfriend around. I don't know her so it's weird. She excuses herself to the bathroom. Now, my friend goes on to explain to me how he is ending the relationship with her!! Apparently, they haven't been getting along well for weeks! I had no idea.
12:00 - Around this time, this girlfriend of his apparently is really mad at my friend for no good reason. She moves away from him and stands by me and starts talking to other guys to make him jealous. She encourages me to dance with her!! What? No, I can't dance with my friend's girlfriend! What the hell have I gotten myself into?? I try to persuade her to dance with my friend, but she is apparently mad at him - again, for no real reason.
Question - What the hell is going on here? She is just trying to make my friend jealous, right?
12:30 - I decide we should leave. It's been uncomfortable being in between their squabble.
1:45 - I get home and get online. The girl who I called earlier and had that too brief convo with is online and asks me why I am home so early. I talk to her for a while and make sure to actually talk to her this time. I get disconnected. She calls me up on the phone after about 10 minutes because we hadn't finished talking.
I have the best convo I've ever had with her!
We actually had a deep conversation for maybe the first time and I think I subconsciously did some SS on her. She took interest in my life, where I live, what I do with all my free time, and invited me out to party on Thursday. I asked her about some places she had lived and here's something I have to ask about:
Was the following some type of pattern I did on her?
I recall that she lived in southern California and we talk about that. I mention that I would love to visit their someday and I'd like to learn to surf. "Wouldn't that be fun?," I ask her. I ask if she ever surfed there, but she hadn't. She went on to tell me, though, that she loves boogie boarding and stuff and agrees it would be a lot of fun to surf.
Tell me, is that SS??? I feel so proud of myself right now if it is!!
Bottom line is I thought I was way too brief with this girl, but I was too hard on myself. She initiated contact with me later that night and we had a great conversation.
It was a really weird night with my friend's girlfriend acting all flaky and ****, but I learned a lot. Thanks for reading! I'm sure I forgot some things that I will remember later on.