"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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"Weird" methods for the soul?

Roly

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You know, I was thinking about this while I was watching Batman Begin the other night and it made me think of all the
" weird" stuff Bruce Wayne had to go through to conquer his fears and become Batman like travel the world, go to the freakin Himalayas just to become a more enlightened person and seek his purpose in life. I dunno, it made me think of the " weird" things people do to get confidence and sense of peace about themselves. Sort of like Phil Jackson bringing his zen philosophy and making his players do Yoga or something in that manner.

Here are a couple of examples, I thought of:

( 1.) Go to Tibet and become a Shaolin Monk.

-I pick up this new book that I'm reading and there's this dude who was from NY and he went to Tibet to become a Shaolin Monk to make peace with his horrible past. Not a bad book by the way.

(2.) Go to the wilderness and spend five months there by yourself.

- Hey, this isn't such a bad idea, you can come out of this a better man because this will build self reliance upon yourself emotionally and physically.

(3.) Take up meditation, yoga, tai- chi and try learning a martial arts.

Meditation is great, it will clear your mind and learning martial arts builds emotional and physical discipline to an individual.

(4.) Go Sky diving and moutain climbing.

I never tried this, but it's probably a great way to build up some testosterones.

(5.) Wake up early in the morning and go jogging by yourself.

Done this a couple of times, it's an enlightening way to start your day. I live in a small town so I'm jogging all by myself just enjoying the solitude before the sun rises.


Well, that's about it. Does anybody else have any " weird" methods that they use ? Feel free to share with us.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You live in South Padre Island. The only thing I'd need to cleanse my soul there would be a case of beer and a video camera.

By the way, AE.
 

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Originally posted by diablo
You live in South Padre Island. The only thing I'd need to cleanse my soul there would be a case of beer and a video camera.

By the way, AE.
haha yea....

Go spend 5 months in the wilderness by yourself?

why dont you try more practical ways to gain confidence?
 

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Originally posted by undesputable
haha yea....

Go spend 5 months in the wilderness by yourself?

why dont you try more practical ways to gain confidence?
sticking with ways that you think is practical is a way of setting up barriers for the broad potential of your own mind.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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im just saying #1 and 2 are very impractical because becoming a shaolin monk i believe takes a loooong time and not anybody can do it, and how many people do you know that knows how to survive in the wilderness for more than a couple of weeks?
 

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I've started taking Tai Chi and Kung Fu a few months ago and I love it. It helps me find balance because most of the time I am adapting to chaos. Meditating is a great way to get in touch with your higher self.
 

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Originally posted by Roly
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Well, that's about it. Does anybody else have any " weird" methods that they use ? Feel free to share with us.
Scuba diving. Whenever I get underwater, it's a different world. You can't zone out though, since you have to pay attention to things like how much time you spend down and how fast you're consuming air. But there is a Zen quality to it and I always feel at peace while I'm diving. None of my problems or issues bother me when I'm underwater.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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