"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Hey i recently just had somthing occur to me

nobody knows how people think
i was chatting with someone and just said some standard dj knowledge (dominate vs not, etc) they were blown away by my knowledge of the way people interact. and then it dawned on me scince i find phycology so interesting i am form now on whenever i have an idea im gonna write it down.
basicly im gonna observe and analize the way people interact in order to understand how people react in situations and such.

you guys think im crazy or this is a good or bad idea?

i think its gonna be another hobby to pass time and learn from, as a person and a DJ
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Not a bad idea. Buy a social psychology book and you will begin to make infinite and more profound connections with what the dj bible and all the other seduction methods are trying to teach....... Also pick up "influence," its a great book.

Also, your sig is incorrect, perception is not reality. I understand and practice living in my world, pump myself up with positive self-talk and a crazy super- self-mastery image, but to understand, relate, and have meaningful interpersonal relationships we have to understand that perception is not fact, it is cloudy and subjected to our own personal filters.... Check out ( . ) ( . ) reaction in my "ne of the girls thread," can you see how he chooses to filter the original theme of the thread, can you see how the other two main responders react to him???
 

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that is meant for ignorants if that isnt clear sry. but it is kind of true your perseption is what you belive and as humans we choose to see what we want. kid who u think smells bad will become the kid who is known for smelling bad.

im not a good philosipher yet
 

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Originally posted by Brian20o2
Hey i recently just had somthing occur to me

nobody knows how people think
i was chatting with someone and just said some standard dj knowledge (dominate vs not, etc) they were blown away by my knowledge of the way people interact. and then it dawned on me scince i find phycology so interesting i am form now on whenever i have an idea im gonna write it down.
basicly im gonna observe and analize the way people interact in order to understand how people react in situations and such.

you guys think im crazy or this is a good or bad idea?

i think its gonna be another hobby to pass time and learn from, as a person and a DJ
Thats a really WEIRD idea. -good luck.
 

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Originally posted by Brian20o2
i think its gonna be another hobby to pass time and learn from, as a person and a DJ
HEY! DJ's are people too, ya' know!? ;)

Ah, sounds like an interesting idea. Go for it and be sure to let us know how it goes. :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Brian20o2
Hey i recently just had somthing occur to me

nobody knows how people think
i was chatting with someone and just said some standard dj knowledge (dominate vs not, etc) they were blown away by my knowledge of the way people interact. and then it dawned on me scince i find phycology so interesting i am form now on whenever i have an idea im gonna write it down.
basicly im gonna observe and analize the way people interact in order to understand how people react in situations and such.

you guys think im crazy or this is a good or bad idea?

i think its gonna be another hobby to pass time and learn from, as a person and a DJ

This is actually the basis of NLP and to pick up on it at 16 is impressive. You should try reading some NLP books as I think you would find them very interesting. I do this all the time too btw and it's one of the main reasons I can adapt to different people and different social situations so easily.
 

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Re: Re: Weird idea

Originally posted by quest
Thats a really WEIRD idea. -good luck.
It's not a weird idea. In fact, it is a very very powerful idea, because once you catalog different behaviors of how people act in certain situations, you can tip the the scales in your favor.

Basically, people are very predictable if you can observe them long enough. So for example if you konw that doing a certain behavior leads to, or triggers a predictable reaction, if you want to repeat the reaction, just do the behavior and if you want to avoid the reaction do something else.

Trust me, you'll become a lot better at predicting what people will do in a certain situation and when you get there, you can pretty much get anyone to do anything when you want to, Very uselful for example if you're in a relationship and want to have sex whenever you choose. ;)

I'm also very observant in nature, but that does make me a bit passive. You have to use what you learn, otherwise you'll end up living a pretty boring life.

By the way, there is no need to write things down, . That's why you have a brain with tremendous amounts of memory.

:rockon:
 

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Re: Re: Weird idea

Originally posted by Jariel
This is actually the basis of NLP and to pick up on it at 16 is impressive. You should try reading some NLP books as I think you would find them very interesting. I do this all the time too btw and it's one of the main reasons I can adapt to different people and different social situations so easily.
Got that right!!!! :rockon:
 

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Re: Re: Re: Weird idea

Originally posted by legolas
By the way, there is no need to write things down, . That's why you have a brain with tremendous amounts of memory.
the reason im writing my ideas down is so i cn look back on them after a time to see a change in my perspective. plus my mind just spits out so many ideas and thoughts on this subject that i cant memorize them... they just fly into my head and only like 20% of my observations i remember
 

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Re: Re: Weird idea

Originally posted by Jariel
This is actually the basis of NLP and to pick up on it at 16 is impressive. You should try reading some NLP books as I think you would find them very interesting. I do this all the time too btw and it's one of the main reasons I can adapt to different people and different social situations so easily.
im gonna sound like a noob and a dumb a** for a sec but i forgot what NLP is. care to remind me
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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neuro linguistic programming......

I have several ebooks on the topic, and plan on attending a seminar at school next month.

I might take a course with NLP comprehensive....

I've used ross jefferies BJ pattern to get head.
 
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