Weird experience last night...thoughts?

[BernieTrump]

Met up with a girl last night I met online who I'd been talking to for a few days. We went out for a few drinks and had a great conversation. However, she wasn't giving me great body language (avoiding eye contact, etc.), and so I was surprised when she invited me back to her place to "stay the night." I assumed this was the tell-tale sign she wanted sex, so when we got back to her place, I tried kissing her. She reciprocated, but it was awful... almost like she was just dead, as if I was kissing a wall. Then, when I tried to escalate more, she said "I'm not comfortable doing more until I know a person better." Not necessarily a bad sign, I feel, and I'm fine waiting for a second or third date, but then why invite me back to her place to stay the night? So then we basically just went to bed, and she turned away from me for the entire night, and wasn't very interested in cuddling...didn't so much as lay a hand on me. I told her I could leave since I had an appointment early today, but she kept reiterating "no no I want you to stay." I didn't press her to do anything (like cuddle or sex or anything after that), but I basically laid there like a vegetable and it was so awkward for me...So throughout the entire night ever since we left the bar she showed me no physical interest, but then this morning when she walked me to the door she wanted a kiss.......

Argh I'm confused

I haven't texted her and am not planning on doing so, waiting to see if she reaches out.

Thoughts?

 

[Julian]

You seem kind of passive an this chick seems like shes playing psycho games. The moment she said she doesnt feel confy moving forward you should have said "i respect that but i dont play the mixed signals game, why invite me over for the night yet you dont want to get physical? Am i that ugly? Lol...look im a grown man, your a big girl, we are both adults here and really.. i gotta go". Then you leave. You should be more assertive instead of going beta clam mode and just feeling awkward...take control of the situation, set expectations, and let her make the choice.

 

[sosousage]

no explanation for her behavior OP. WTF lol

 

[A 3% Percent Man]

Bernie Trump you are a man and must act like a Man. Go watch some Bond movies. You sound like the old me when I was clueless. I left too much tail on the table in my 20s

Chicks for the most part will not make the moves on you.

Sex is suppose to be the man's fault.
You were invited to her home and slept in the bed with her (Ding Ding). Push pull. Yeah she said blah . you try again in different ways while you spend the night either kissing . using your fingers to play with her kitty. Perform oral on her.

If I am spending the night with a chick 9 out 10 times we are smashing. I have had many ladies drop I don't normally do this line or we are not having sex. I smile and keep quite to not talk myself out of getting some.

 

[dude99]

Met up with a girl last night I met online who I'd been talking to for a few days. We went out for a few drinks and had a great conversation. However, she wasn't giving me great body language (avoiding eye contact, etc.), and so I was surprised when she invited me back to her place to "stay the night." I assumed this was the tell-tale sign she wanted sex, so when we got back to her place, I tried kissing her. She reciprocated, but it was awful... almost like she was just dead, as if I was kissing a wall. Then, when I tried to escalate more, she said "I'm not comfortable doing more until I know a person better." Not necessarily a bad sign, I feel, and I'm fine waiting for a second or third date, but then why invite me back to her place to stay the night? So then we basically just went to bed, and she turned away from me for the entire night, and wasn't very interested in cuddling...didn't so much as lay a hand on me. I told her I could leave since I had an appointment early today, but she kept reiterating "no no I want you to stay." I didn't press her to do anything (like cuddle or sex or anything after that), but I basically laid there like a vegetable and it was so awkward for me...So throughout the entire night ever since we left the bar she showed me no physical interest, but then this morning when she walked me to the door she wanted a kiss.......

Argh I'm confused

I haven't texted her and am not planning on doing so, waiting to see if she reaches out.

Thoughts?

Sounds like she does like you but is socially akward. Perhaps she will loosen up and not be so weird after a few dates.

 

[BernieTrump]

Sounds like she does like you but is socially akward. Perhaps she will loosen up and not be so weird after a few dates.

Should I reach out to her? Or wait until she initiates? As in should I send a "Let's do it again " text?

 

[A 3% Percent Man]

Should I reach out to her? Or wait until she initiates? As in should I send a "Let's do it again " text?

Go read my advise that I gave you on your last thread when you were trying to set a 2nd date after your first date

 

[BernieTrump]

Unlikly that she will reach out given her behaivour. But I would suggest writing an other text then 'let's do it again'

Which would be?

 

[A 3% Percent Man]

Unlikly that she will reach out given her behaivour. But I would suggest writing an other text then 'let's do it again'

You are encouraging Bernie to act like she is the only woman in his universe. Contact the lady after he just left her home under 24hrs. Smh.

 

[A 3% Percent Man]

I dont think it's problematic to shoot a short message after a date I do that almost every time, without probelms

It might work for you. But did your read Bernie Trump last thread. Chick are flaking on him. Because of his puppy love vibe.

 

[BernieTrump]

My grandfather used to say "strike the iron while it's hot"

Iron isn't hot though...iron felt cold

 

[dude99]

Should I reach out to her? Or wait until she initiates? As in should I send a "Let's do it again " text?

Wait a couple of days. Then proceed normally. Technically nothing bad happened.

After date 2 or 3 you will know were you stand.

 

[RickiRick]

Weird woman. I am also sure she plays psycho games. And I would propose to do the same. Call her a date. And when you are together, be cold as she is, act like she. She needs finally to feel and realize, what she is doing.

 

[ubercat]

Agree with the guys. The chick has issues but you still should have got some. I've had this scenario with a few chicks. The game is to make them so horny they come up with their own excuse. Only chick I ever failed with was a Fundamentalist Christian girl who was seriously Holding Out for marriage. Did spend the night in a hotel room with me so that one is still on me there must have been a way.

Leave it a couple of days reachout casually. But don't expect much. When a chick reaches buying temperature and you mess up the escalation the pvssy dries up pretty quick. She will rationalize that nothing happened because she is not attracted to you and you are not worthy of the Golden V.

 

[QuadDeuces]

The exact same thing happened to me recently, read in this thread: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/girl-playing-hard-to-get.243631/

After initial bs she was ready to have sex with me. Guess it was a shyte test of some sort.