"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Weird Ex - what's on her mind?

Trance

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Im gona try to make this short. 3 year LTR, she breakes up, goes date other guy for like 2 months, broke up with him and had like 5 dates with diferent guys involving some kissing, and then loses interest in them.

Meanwhile, i realize its not worth it and im on to lots of other girls too, and dont want her back. So i really get independent about her, not AFC at all. What i mean by this is that she started to wanna hang out with me after she broke up with the 2months guy, and wanted to go movie, cofee, mall with me. Since i feel good i started having some time together with her, we hang out sometimes for a movie, gym or some other thing.

I still like her looks, so when we are together i usually kino her, she doesnt feel unconfortable at all with it, like we play figthing and i can slap her ass at will or feel her legs or something, but most of the times she doesnt let this last much time.

I really feel no problem with this cause i feel free, it doesnt bother me to be with her without being boyfriends cause im loving being free and with other girls. But what does she want? SHe's usually the one who wants to hang out with me and do something. If she would wanna go back i think she would kino back a lot more (altough she does some like sitting on my lap and that kinda stuff). Also, we are going on vacation on a 5 guys 5 girls team to a great beach location with small houses. 700 students will be there. THat means a lot of sex in that trip :)

Now she accepeted to go to this trip (i invited cause we were really missing 2 more girls cause the spots were almost all taken in the 1st day) without even knowing any of the other team members, just me... What does she want from me after all? I wouldnt mind getting laid with her again (i proposed casual sex like 1 month ago but she said no) cause she's really hot.. Ah well, girls...

Anyway, she got me like 10 contacts of girls on messenger, so this even puzzles me even more lol
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She told you 'no' already - so why are you wasting your time trying to be 'nice' with her???:confused:
 

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Dude, you still hang out with even after she "leaves" you THREE WHOLE FVCKKING YEARS LATER? Dude wtf are you at? You must be obsessed with her!

Forget it. She goes out with another guy, so then you gotta' move on. She just "broke" a long ass relationship with you and her and you still give kinos and drink coffee with her? I mean, c'mon dude wtf are you thinking? You need to move on.
 

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Im not being nice, just being normal like i am with friends.. Now she's a friend that knows me well, that can be very good for some things. She can introduce me her girl friends (i already went out with 2 of them), help me like the other day picking some clothes, etc.. Humm anyway, what more can you say prl?

2nd poster, u got it wrong, we had a 3 yo relation, and we broke up like 3 months ago. And no im not obcessed, actually im so cool with it, that's why i cant hang out with her and feel no problem at all with it. She even told me her stories with guys and i told her my stories with girls.
 

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PRL has got it right...

She doesn't want anything expect for you to be there as a friend - emotional tampon. Your not going to be able to hit it again - and she's made that clear.

You should drop her.

Not time with you unless she's putting out - or you are getting something from it.

You would not put up with this from a chick you just meet - so do not put up with this from her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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