"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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weight training class. yay or nay

rudygee2

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Hey whats up all. Ive been weight lifing for like 4 months, but Ive been thinking of taking a weight training class here at my university because Ive never had any formal instructions on how to do form, just the internet, haha. I mean, since i already lift weights, might as well get credit for it right? So what do you all think? have you guys done a class or anything? do you think they will make me do some weird routine that sucks or do you think they will allow me to go about with my own routine?


random question here too.... when you do skull crushers, does it matter if you use dumbbells instead of an ez bar? seems like dbs would be better for the elbow, but is there any downside of using dbs instead?

Thanks for all your help.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I say yay becaue you can get an easy A and you learn.

I prefer to use ez bar. Dumbells make that exercise kind of awkward IMO.
 

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Cool, thanks for your input fatality.

I asked for a downside for dbs, and AFK protector gave me one :)
 

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Take the class, it will teach you stuff that you might never learn otherwise as I assume it will be taught by a true strength and conditioning professional, not some personal trainer who might or might not know.

You will learn how to lift correctly to maximize your strength as well as learn the proper form to prevent injury. It will also provide you with an arsenal of exercises to do to target your development the best.

You would also most likely learn how to do power exericises like the snatch, clean and jerk, etc. with the power exericises, techniques is so critical.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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rudygee2

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Originally posted by Road Demon
Take the class, it will teach you stuff that you might never learn otherwise as I assume it will be taught by a true strength and conditioning professional, not some personal trainer who might or might not know.

You will learn how to lift correctly to maximize your strength as well as learn the proper form to prevent injury. It will also provide you with an arsenal of exercises to do to target your development the best.

You would also most likely learn how to do power exericises like the snatch, clean and jerk, etc. with the power exericises, techniques is so critical.
hmmmm, i dont actually think its taught by a professional :(. Not really sure what their qualifications are.... but its probably just a personal trainer. Ive never seen anyone do power exercises in our gym. I dont think we have the room for that, haha.

I guess the most Im hoping for are the perfect forms and how to prevent injury. Im not sure about maximizing stregth though.

Actually, the more i think about it, I dont think the instructors are very qualified. I over heard one of them talking to one of his students, and the student said "i heard squats were good cause they release testosterone, letting the whole body grow more". The instructor was just like "ummm, i dont know. Im not too sure all the medical reasons, but I know they are good". Soooo, i dont know.
 

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I would say Nay.

Its good in theory, but at my school they base you on gains. If you don't gain alot, regardless of how hard you work, then you don't get an A. This leads to people pacing themselves throughout the year and they don't get the most out of it then if they came in after school and worked how they want to.

There must be some football players or baseball players in your dorm, bug them and ask them next time they lift to show you proper form for lifting. All it takes is the first few times for form, and after that you will not need someone to watch your form (Although it is always nice to have someone do that for you).

Its not worth it in my opinion.
 

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Originally posted by Heizen
I would say Nay.

Its good in theory, but at my school they base you on gains. If you don't gain alot, regardless of how hard you work, then you don't get an A. This leads to people pacing themselves throughout the year and they don't get the most out of it then if they came in after school and worked how they want to.

There must be some football players or baseball players in your dorm, bug them and ask them next time they lift to show you proper form for lifting. All it takes is the first few times for form, and after that you will not need someone to watch your form (Although it is always nice to have someone do that for you).

Its not worth it in my opinion.
hmmm, I think ours is pass/fail, so I dont have to worry too much about the grade thing. I doubt its the same as yours, at least I hope its not, haha.

But yeah, I actually life next to football and wrestlers, hahaha. Ill keep it in mind. Thanks.
 
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