Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Weigh yourself

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Diesel,

I believe you're the one that can help me.
I read the guide to bulking up. The part that draw my interest is the weigh yourself part. Because I'm really slim.

Can you resume that part a bit, or make it a unique sticky post?

By the way do you have msn or yahoo?

Thanks.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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6-heads lewis

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what do you need help with exactly?

lift heavy weights, eat a lot, sleep. weigh yourself every so often. if youre not gaining any weight, eat more, reexamine your workout.

the longer you cna hold off weighing yourself the better. i personally did it every week, though i admit thats too much.

where the confusion?
 

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Espi said:
I'll help you:

DO NOT weigh yourself.

Seriously.

Why do you feel you need to weigh yourself? There's absolutely no need for it. I don't understand the weight issues with guys.

Throw away the scale and buy a full-length mirror. Look in it the same time every day; if you look skinnier and your goal is to be larger, eat more. If you look bigger and your goal is to be leaner, eat less.

I agree. Weight tells you nothing about fitness level or the positive changes in your body. Simple before & after measurements of the diameter of your waist, arms, chest and thighs will give you an more accurate assessment.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Or you can stop thinking in extremes and do both.

I was obsessed with weighting myself during my first few months of serious training when I went from 153 to 195. I would do it every morning and night. I believe it helped me mentally because I could quantify my progress not just in my increasing lifts and looking bigger in the mirror, but also on the scale.

Now I've chilled out and only weight myself Monday mornings after using the bathroom and showering, looking for ~0.5lb gain/week while keeping the belt on the same notch lol.
 

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Espi said:
I'll help you:

DO NOT weigh yourself.

Seriously.

Why do you feel you need to weigh yourself? There's absolutely no need for it. I don't understand the weight issues with guys.

Throw away the scale and buy a full-length mirror. Look in it the same time every day; if you look skinnier and your goal is to be larger, eat more. If you look bigger and your goal is to be leaner, eat less.
If you're 120 lbs, you need a scale to know you're gaining weight because most of the time you can't tell.
 

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yah, at really low body fat, a scale might be good since all you're gaining is muscle. At moderate body fat, theirs a lot of variation in composition, water weight, ect.

But don't judge your progression on the scale alone, most people need to get stronger before they get bigger. Pay attention to how much you lift.
 
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I try to weigh myself once a month, maybe ever week or two.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The nutrition side is about eating more calories than you burn in a day. This may mean you eating say 3,000-3,500 calories. A rough guide is your bodyweight in lbs times 15 = calories to main weight, PLUS 500 calories = enough surplus to grow muscle when bodybuilding.

Then you also have to get your protein/carb/fat requirements.

A common ratio is 40/40/20 I.e:

40% of your calories from protein
40% of your calories from carbs
20% of your calories from fats

Not all calories are created equal though!

There are:

4 calories to every gram of protein
4 calories to every gram of carbs
9 calories to every gram of fat

So if you were eating a 3,100 calorie diet you would require:

270g Protein = 1080 calories
270g Carbs = 1080 calories
60g Fats = 540 calories

Total calories: 3,100 with the 40/40/20 ratio.

It is rather complicated until you get your head around it but your diet will make or break your muscle building efforts.

The Muscly Jerk
 
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