"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Weekdays are odd days to date?

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mrRuckus

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This isn't really a big deal, but i don't really know what the general populace thinks about this, and I'm curious.

I've never really focused on this before, but I started talking to this girl and last night she asked me if i wanted to meet her for a drink at so-and-so. It'll be our first get together. I already had plans to meet some other people so i said i'd contact her soon and set something up for another night.

Anyway today I txt her

"Mon or Tues evening are good for me. Do you have a preference for which day to meet up?"

She says
"Monday and Tuesday are kind of odd days but, i guess either is fine with me. Just let me know."

I set it up and made it firm so everything is cool, but...

Mon and Tues are considered odd dates to date? I purposely picked them so it wouldn't be too far in the future but i didn't want it to be like "please come out immediately because i have no plans for the weekend."
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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from my experiences, weekdays are the best time to setup first dates and during the initial stages of getting to know a woman.

You shouldn't make yourself available to chicks you barely know on weekends(unless you're guaranteed to screw). She'll think you don't have anything else going on.
 
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dont act like it's a big deal and it wont be. youre the man, and your style of dating will be something she gets used to. if you act like "really? why is it an odd day?" then she'll have a good reason to feel like it's an odd day to date. give her the idea that she's over thinking things or being silly, and she'll drop her judgements on "monday and tuesday being odd" in a jiffy
 
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I agree with GuanYu, weekday/night dates are the best in inital stages, because a) it isnt a "bar" night b) places arent as busy, so there is less noise and distraction, so youre able to talk better c) weeknight dates seem to have less pressure imo. You set the time and date if she likes you it wont matter.
 
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Plus, with weeknight dates, you've got an built-in bailout excuse (work / school tomorrow) to end the evening on your terms.

BUT, having said that, there are some women I know that think a guy is just stringing them along if they never get a weekend date eventually.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Dude, date on a Tuesday or Wednesday. It makes you seem popular since most guys date on weekends.
 
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mrRuckus said:
This isn't really a big deal, but i don't really know what the general populace thinks about this, and I'm curious.

I've never really focused on this before, but I started talking to this girl and last night she asked me if i wanted to meet her for a drink at so-and-so. It'll be our first get together. I already had plans to meet some other people so i said i'd contact her soon and set something up for another night.

Anyway today I txt her

"Mon or Tues evening are good for me. Do you have a preference for which day to meet up?"

She says
"Monday and Tuesday are kind of odd days but, i guess either is fine with me. Just let me know."

I set it up and made it firm so everything is cool, but...

Mon and Tues are considered odd dates to date? I purposely picked them so it wouldn't be too far in the future but i didn't want it to be like "please come out immediately because i have no plans for the weekend."
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Weekdays are definitely the way to go.
 
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mrRuckus said:
This isn't really a big deal, but i don't really know what the general populace thinks about this, and I'm curious.

I've never really focused on this before, but I started talking to this girl and last night she asked me if i wanted to meet her for a drink at so-and-so. It'll be our first get together. I already had plans to meet some other people so i said i'd contact her soon and set something up for another night.

Anyway today I txt her

"Mon or Tues evening are good for me. Do you have a preference for which day to meet up?"

She says
"Monday and Tuesday are kind of odd days but, i guess either is fine with me. Just let me know."

I set it up and made it firm so everything is cool, but...

Mon and Tues are considered odd dates to date? I purposely picked them so it wouldn't be too far in the future but i didn't want it to be like "please come out immediately because i have no plans for the weekend."
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Women are idiots sometimes. It's your world. you're the prize. she needs to understand that sooner or later. Be unique and proud. Nobody fvcks with your world and way of life. :nono:
 
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A weekday might be "odd" to some people because they don't go out during the week. However, they're good for initial dates, because, as someone already pointed out, if things suck, you have that built in alibi, you need to get home early to do work / study / whatever you do with life. However, on the weekends, you either need to throw out the "I need to meet my friends later" excuse right up front, which is kind of rude, or give a see-through excuse which is also in bad form.

Sounds like it was a good play for you. She needs to -earn- a weekend date!
 
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