"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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PDubb75

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Hey guys,

I RSVPed to a wedding with a +1 back when I was with my ex. The girl I was planning on taking now can't go. The wedding is this Saturday, and I'll feel like a complete a$$hole if they pay for a guest that I don't bring.

I really don't have many platonic female friends, and I don't want to bring a plate to this wedding because my parents and nearly my entire company will be there (president of my company's son is the groom).

Anyone have any decent ideas on finding a random girl (in person and/or online) to take? Tips? Am I completely crazy for even considering that? Obviously a wedding is quite different than asking a random girl to get a drink.

I almost feel crazy even asking this. But my time is running out. Appreciate any help.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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PDubb75

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Seriously? Nothing? Not even a post telling me I'm an idiot for thinking this?
 

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PDubb75 said:
Hey guys,

I RSVPed to a wedding with a +1 back when I was with my ex. The girl I was planning on taking now can't go. The wedding is this Saturday, and I'll feel like a complete a$$hole if they pay for a guest that I don't bring.

I really don't have many platonic female friends, and I don't want to bring a plate to this wedding because my parents and nearly my entire company will be there (president of my company's son is the groom).

Anyone have any decent ideas on finding a random girl (in person and/or online) to take? Tips? Am I completely crazy for even considering that? Obviously a wedding is quite different than asking a random girl to get a drink.

I almost feel crazy even asking this. But my time is running out. Appreciate any help.
Tell them what happened so they might be able to invite someone else in her place
 

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you're willing to bring a total stranger but not a plate? I'm sure even if you bring a friend everyone would think she's a date, might as well bring a plate...one which would fit in well in the said event
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PDubb75

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I actually would rather bring a stranger than deal with a plate thinking it's more than it is, and then needing to end it because she wants to be exclusive. Plus the one plate I even considered wouldn't be able to go.

I may ask this girl that works at my gym, I'm just hoping it doesn't get all awkward if she says no, since I see her 5 times a week.
 

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i just think it's too strong a thing to ask a random girl at the gym
 
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