"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Wedding coming up: Date or no date?

Broham

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My buddy's wedding is a little over a month away, and I'm debating on whether to bring a date or not. There's only going to be around 100 people, so I'm not sure how many single girls will be in attendance. In terms of girls I can bring, I'm considering a HB9 who I've talked to online but have had difficulty scheduling a first date with. She always returns my calls/emails but seems to always be busy. I think she's playing hard to get and wants me to call her out on it. Before I go off on a tangent about her, do you think I should ask her to be my date for the wedding?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Obsidian

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err, if she always seems to be busy, that's not good
 

poohead

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weddings are always very good for meeting single women. i'd talk to my buddy about who's going to be there, then decide. i wouldn't take the flakey HB9.
 

tihash

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Ok, so you are asking us if you should take A GIRL YOU HAVE NEVER MET AND HAVE NOT EVEN SEEN IN REAL LIFE to a wedding next month?
 

flexion_

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Go solo to the wedding. Keep the online flakey chick out of it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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penkitten

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i always thought you didnt bring a date to a wedding unless you were already dating them.
 

DJDamage

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If you are not in LTR then bringing a girl to a wedding makes as much sense as bringing a sandwich to a restaurant buffet or bringing sand to the beach.

There bound to be some single chicks from the bride side, ask your buddy to help you get hooked up.

Just remember that its double the price to bring a date to a wedding.

DJD
 

girlsarecrazy

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Heh, A girl just asked me to be her date at this upcoming wedding in June.
 

BrotherAP

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Forget a date. Bring an attractive female friend, be seen with her, and then proceed to game any single girl you think is hot.
 

KarmaSutra

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Are you in the wedding or just a spectator? If you're in the wedding DO NOT bring anyone. You're already on chick radar.

If you're not a cast member go ahead and drag a chick along. Don't ask her though, tell her she's coming.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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girlsarecrazy

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KarmaSutra said:
Are you in the wedding or just a spectator? If you're in the wedding DO NOT bring anyone. You're already on chick radar./QUOTE]

So true!
 

check_mate_kid_uk

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DJDamage said:
If you are not in LTR then bringing a girl to a wedding makes as much sense as bringing a sandwich to a restaurant buffet

:crackup:
 
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