"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wearing a vibrant pink shirt in a bar/club

Vice

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A few months ago I created a thread about me going out alot and trying a whole bunch of things. The most talked about aspect was me mentioning wearing a vibrant pink dress shirt from Express out.

The results were alot different than I expected.

I expected to be hassled by other dudes. No one said anything to me. I had one dude stare at me like I was a bastard, but I think it was his own insecurities projecting towards me. The two girls that were with him checking me out may have something to do with it as well.

I expected to be thought of as gay. And yeah, I'm sure that some people suspected it, but I didn't care. I'll admit that it's a little fruity. But I don't dress well for other guys; I dress well to stand out for the ladies.

Blending into the crowd in a club is a poor idea.

I had women checking me out, and I even had one tell me that I was a "real man". I was very self-conscious about wearing it at first, but now I'm pretty comfortable with it.

It's a great conversation starter. And women find out very quickly that I'm straight. And they're ecstatic.

As for people precieving me as gay, who the f*ck cares? I don't care what dudes think of me. Most dudes are losers. I don't give a f*ck what some loser that stands by the wall with a beer in his hand thinks of me. And the girls that whisper and ask "is he gay?" are TALKING ABOUT ME, and not the losers. If girls are talking about me, it makes it that much easier to get in an interaction, especially when they see me having fun with other women.

Wearing a pink shirt has helped with my confidence and self-esteem, and I am no longer insecure about it. In fact, it's helped with my interactions with women. It's not for everyone, but I reccommend that some of you more adventureous guys experiment with it.

I'm only 20 years old and I'm starting to go to bars/clubs more often and getting experience, so this might be old news to most of you guys.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i have a pink long sleeve shirt, a pink v neck shirt, and a pink polo shirt. no problem wearing them. :)
 

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Funny this came up. I was out last night looking for some shirts and was trying to find a pink shirt. I couldn't find one I felt I looked good in. And I won't be getting a shirt I don't like on myself.

I'll keep looking, but I did buy a very bright blue shirt. Similar in color to this: http://s7d5.scene7.com/is/image/exp...,0,1720,2000&scl=6.2773722627737225&id=hJ0rT2

I also got a somewhat purple one that fits really well. It shows off my gym progress nicely!
 

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Chick "Wait, are you gay?"
You: "Come back with me to my place after this and find out"

BOOM
 

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I have a pink polo I'll occasionally wear under a sports coat. I have had women go out of their way at work telling me, "only a true man can wear pink." So, yep!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I saw a guy with a pink shirt, with big letters "SORRY BUT BLACK WAS SOLD OUT". I'm so getting one of those :D
 

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I wore a light pink dress shirt with white jeans ..boy i was the center of attention. I got a free shot from the bartender. Happened last summer.
 

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One day I will upload pictures, but I have a bright BRIGHT pink shirt that I rock with a black tie. Pulls poon. But you gotta be awesome. You just cant be sulking/nonsocial in a bright colored anything
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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There is nothing gay about wearing pink shirts. I have a pink dress shirt.
 

mahoney

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pink shirt isn't exactly gay

You wanna pull this off? pink shorts
 

IamJosan

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I don't see what the big deal is. I have some pink dress shirts. It's just a color. I evn have some purple ones.
 

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I have like 5 Pink shirts. One Hollister, and 4 Pink Polos. Whenever I wear a pink shirt I like to think of it as ladies appreciation day. Girls love the fact that I wear pink. I get so many stares from the ladies and compliments.
 

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Save the TaTa's breast cancer awareness , def gonna buy a pink shirt
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah, I have some yellow and red jeans I rock sometimes. It isn't about the colour, it's about putting it together right.
 

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Women love men in pink shirts on a guy. Many men aren't secure/confident enough to be able to pull off pink. I have many pink shirts..it is quite amazing the (read: EXTRA) attention they can bring you.
 
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