She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I wanted to bump this thread because of how relevant this info is. Get rid of the laptop, porn, and video games, TECHNOLOGY IS A CURSE.Drewskie said:I must say, now that I have read lots of the material out there, this is still one of the best.
Can someone post the pdf for this? The link that was posted in 2003 IS DOWN.naSTIboost said:Thanks for bumping this post! Some solid stuff here for sure. I will do this and post results.
Mister T the link is in the DJ Bible at the bottom of this page. Open that up and you can download it from there along with the also excellent 'Book of Pook'Mister T said:Can someone post the pdf for this? The link that was posted in 2003 IS DOWN.
PLEASE DO!!!!!
AND RIGHT NOW, I'm in the process of deleting all my "technology" --- deleting Team Fortress 2, Counter-Strike, etc.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Mister T said:I wanted to bump this thread because of how relevant this info is. Get rid of the laptop, porn, and video games, TECHNOLOGY IS A CURSE.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I fixed the links. They all work now.listed in the DJ bible but the links in the original post just bring me back to the discussions forum
Awesome ! Back to my studiesI fixed the links. They all work now.