That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I haven't read the study yet either, but I would say if slightly higher percentage of wealthy men are getting married it's still significant because I believe a wealthy guy has less to gain by marriage than a poor guy. The wealthier guys are probably getting more attraction wives and with less effort, that's the main thing.JeeperCane said:
True. In my early twenties I was doing the chasing... Now it's like, ok babe... you work at a restaurant/bar. I make about 10x's more money than you and have a condo worth half a million bucks. Why should I consider you girlfriend material?bigjohnson said:Anecdotally I know that as my earning power has grown it has gone from chasing girls to choosing girls. Women will make themselves a lot more available to a guy who is or has potential to be a good earner.
Not a newsflash, I know.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
devils advocate for a moment. let's say that it was men who had kids. so you'd have to take 2 or more breaks from your career. if you wanted to be at home when they were young you'd potentially take 5-10 years off and then go back to work.AgonyUncle said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Women see the potential to be a good earner, for lack of a better term. It's not what he has at the second, but what she believes he can and will do overall. That is of course strongly informed by personality traits and track record. Track record shows as present situation.Drum&Bass said: