It's commonly understood at So Suave that possibly the worst trait you can exhibit when trying to attract your prey is weakness. Once your in a LTR you can reveal more of your fears and doubts and that you cry at weddings, if she loves you and you're making her come, she'll won't care too much (though don't overdo it).
Women want to feel secure, so any signs of weakness are a no-no, unless done in a C&F manner or as a way of establishing rapport - even so, tread carefully.
But weakness comes in many forms, some obvious, some not so. Here's a brief list of things that will make a target's IL plummet.
Illness. Don't complain about your poorly tummy. If you have a spot on your nose, laugh it off, don't act embarrassed. If a woman asks you how you are, don't say 'I think I'm coming down with the flu. This can be difficult, because when we are feeling ropey we could often do with some sympathy, and we would like to think this potential partner/fvck would be there to mop our fevered brow if necessary. But women reserve their sympathy for their female friends and are turned off if they think you are looking for a mother figure.
Money Worries. She doesn't need to know your about to file for bankruptcy. If you must admit you haven't two cents to rub together, you say you have cash-flow problems right now, or that you've put all your money into your business or just keep your trap shut. Being poor shouldn't stop you from pulling almost any chick you want - but complaing about your situation will make you look a failure.
Eager-To-Pleaseness. Women must earn their rewards. Don't spoil them or they will doubt your value.
The TV Remote. It's yours. Let her have it occasionally as a treat.
Pretending To Like Her Shyt Musical Tastes. Women know they haven't a clue when it comes to music and rely on a man to confirm it with his manly scorn. Tease her, educate her, convert her, it's a very effective way of establishing your reality over hers.
Indecisiveness. "I don't care, where do you want to go?" Men do not say this. If you really don't care what restaurant/movie/country to go to, just pick one at random and lead her.
Political differences, etc. Stick to your guns, but try and reach common ground. You might succesfully pick up if you carefully elicit values and mirror, but girls respect backbone more. If you must use a technique I'd recommend that with anything up to a HB7, agree with what she says roughly three-quarters of the time, and disagree (using C&F) the rest of the time. With HB8s,9s and 10s, agree less often, if at all.
Complaining. Whining about poor service or how some guy cut you up in the parking lot or whatever doesn't project the fun, exciting dominant man she wants to ****, and is generally to be avoided. But sometimes we all have to really vent our spleens, and the good news is that you can actually do it in a way that is attractive - with humour. Stand-up comedians like Jerry Seinfeld frame their complaints about airline food, etc in a way that makes us feel good, and establishes a positive connection out of a bad situation. Try to look at the funny side of life and women will respond big time.
More when I think of them, feel free to add.
Women want to feel secure, so any signs of weakness are a no-no, unless done in a C&F manner or as a way of establishing rapport - even so, tread carefully.
But weakness comes in many forms, some obvious, some not so. Here's a brief list of things that will make a target's IL plummet.
Illness. Don't complain about your poorly tummy. If you have a spot on your nose, laugh it off, don't act embarrassed. If a woman asks you how you are, don't say 'I think I'm coming down with the flu. This can be difficult, because when we are feeling ropey we could often do with some sympathy, and we would like to think this potential partner/fvck would be there to mop our fevered brow if necessary. But women reserve their sympathy for their female friends and are turned off if they think you are looking for a mother figure.
Money Worries. She doesn't need to know your about to file for bankruptcy. If you must admit you haven't two cents to rub together, you say you have cash-flow problems right now, or that you've put all your money into your business or just keep your trap shut. Being poor shouldn't stop you from pulling almost any chick you want - but complaing about your situation will make you look a failure.
Eager-To-Pleaseness. Women must earn their rewards. Don't spoil them or they will doubt your value.
The TV Remote. It's yours. Let her have it occasionally as a treat.
Pretending To Like Her Shyt Musical Tastes. Women know they haven't a clue when it comes to music and rely on a man to confirm it with his manly scorn. Tease her, educate her, convert her, it's a very effective way of establishing your reality over hers.
Indecisiveness. "I don't care, where do you want to go?" Men do not say this. If you really don't care what restaurant/movie/country to go to, just pick one at random and lead her.
Political differences, etc. Stick to your guns, but try and reach common ground. You might succesfully pick up if you carefully elicit values and mirror, but girls respect backbone more. If you must use a technique I'd recommend that with anything up to a HB7, agree with what she says roughly three-quarters of the time, and disagree (using C&F) the rest of the time. With HB8s,9s and 10s, agree less often, if at all.
Complaining. Whining about poor service or how some guy cut you up in the parking lot or whatever doesn't project the fun, exciting dominant man she wants to ****, and is generally to be avoided. But sometimes we all have to really vent our spleens, and the good news is that you can actually do it in a way that is attractive - with humour. Stand-up comedians like Jerry Seinfeld frame their complaints about airline food, etc in a way that makes us feel good, and establishes a positive connection out of a bad situation. Try to look at the funny side of life and women will respond big time.
More when I think of them, feel free to add.