"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The power of the word "we" should never be underestimated.
It is a powerful word thatm, when used sensibly, elicits a better connection with the person you want to attract.

"I" am not connected
"You" are not connected
"We" are connected

When we say we, we have a bond and on a subconcious level this is drawing us closer.

Ofcourse the "we" statements alone won't work, it must be incorporated into your motivation and not seem forced.

Why does it work?

Well, the use of this word suggests you are already a couple or at least close friends, if only subliminally. Like when you meet a couple and they say "We do love the summer". There is a bridge, a connection built between the couple, and as the word is used in the context of a couple, the use of it between you and your 'target' tends to growing the all important connection and rapport.

We get a sense of relation, if you both have something in common its not "me and her like, (I dunno) KFC", its "we like KFC"

enjoy that one :cool:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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