"we need a break" 3:41am...9:00am "or if you want you can take me to the movies"

[backbreaker]

Negrodamus: I predict, that the girl in question is young and probably even in high school / college

OP: "oh man how did you know that"


Negrodamus: " I also predict that in the future she will stop wanting to hang out as much, she will start spending more time with her female friends (""), and you will get a text about a month or two from now saying that she needs a break from the relationship

OP: Man you must be physic! How do you know all this


Negrodamus: "The OP will then come back to the forum wondering where the relationship went wrong and then desperately plead for information on how to win the girl back, then waste an endless amount of time chasing a woman who is no longer interested in him


Everyone: Thanks Negrodamus!

 

[Brighty]

Its a power move, plain and simple. I think the OP is going to have to see it for himself to really get it.

Yeah, but whether its a red flag or not really depends. With a certain type of girl, yes, it would be, but given the OP's situation honestly it seems like the LTR just misses the dude and she thinks by doing this it'll get his attention (well, yeah). But is it indicative of anything down the road? Debatable. I think its just a **** test, she's probably feeling insecure and wants to see how you feel.

Girls get emotional, they have periods, etc. It could be her time of the month, she could be dealing with some drama (like a negligent boyfriend), etc. Even a perfect girl can slip and have a bipolar-esque moment like the OP's girl - they're only human, no one is truly perfect. I think it's a little unfair to immediately label her an attention ***** and to tell him to break up. What's important is for the OP to look at the big picture rather than just this one incident - is there a pattern? does she do this kind of stuff frequently? are there any other signs here?

My first thought would be that she got drunk, cheated on you, and drunk texted you in her guilt. I mean, why was she up at 3am? Then her vaunted female amorality kicked in and she came crawling back.

Maybe she couldnt get to sleep because she was up late thinking about breaking up with her boyfriend of a year? Not all girls are two-faced wh0res, maybe she was just conflicted about the text she was going to send like you or I or anyone else would in her situation. I swear, some of you guys go on here, it makes me look like some kind of ****ing diehard feminist.