We hung out last night, should I invite her over tonight?

[peanutbuttablunts]

I'm house sitting for a friend tonight and I know she went out with some co-workers to go float the river, so she will be in the same town as the place I'm sitting. We went out with a mutual friend last night and had pretty decent fun (side note I did not invite her out, I was invited by the mutual friend), we danced, she twerked for me a lil, I did a TON of diff people's tarot, including hers, but she wouldn't say what her tarot question is out loud. she told me she'd tell me later and when I asked she said "don't put me on the spot! It's hard for me to talk about my feelings. I have a wall put up." She had also said a few things about how everything takes time and etc. we seem to be bonding more n more, only hung out twice though (side note she is a co-worker of mine, a server for a place I cook at), the most I've done is rub coconut oil on her thighs, and lightly massaged her ( in the morning, her friend's cut things short tho and she had to run). Last night I crashed at her place after everything ..she had me sleep in a diff room, bad sign obv, but then in the morning she came downstairs and tried to fall asleep again on the couch I was on, all I did was massaged her a lil and Gave a headscratch....her signs r very confusing. Sometimes I see interest, other times not. She has another guy that's pursuing her be he treats her like he's playing her and it's obvious to her and me as well, ghosting her, acting jealous when he found out we were hanging out, other general dbag behavior.

I want to invite her over for ice cream when she's done at the river but I'm unsure if it's too soon, if I should be building attraction and ignoring her, but on the other hand that's what the other guy is doing and it doesn't seem to be working out for him..who knows though. What's your guys' verdict? Too soon or f*ck it and invite her over?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I'm house sitting for a friend tonight and I know she went out with some co-workers to go float the river, so she will be in the same town as the place I'm sitting. We went out with a mutual friend last night and had pretty decent fun, we danced, she twerked for me a lil, I did a TON of diff people's tarot, including hers, but she wouldn't say what her tarot question is out loud. she told me she'd tell me later and when I asked she said "don't put me on the spot! It's hard for me to talk about my feelings. I have a wall put up." She had also said a few things about how everything takes time and etc. we seem to be bonding more n more, only hung out twice though (side note she is a co-worker of mine, a server for a place I cook at), the most I've done is rub coconut oil on her thighs, and lightly massaged her ( in the morning, her friend's cut things short tho and she had to run). Last night I crashed at her place after everything ..she had me sleep in a diff room, bad sign obv, but then in the morning she came downstairs and tried to fall asleep again on the couch I was on, all I did was massaged her a lil and Gave a headscratch....her signs r very confusing. Sometimes I see interest, other times not. She has another guy that's pursuing her be he treats her like he's playing her and it's obvious to her and me as well, ghosting her, acting jealous when he found out we were hanging out, other general dbag behavior.

I want to invite her over for ice cream when she's done at the river but I'm unsure if it's too soon, if I should be building attraction and ignoring her, but on the other hand that's what the other guy is doing and it doesn't seem to be working out for him..who knows though. What's your guys' verdict? Too soon or f*ck it and invite her over?

Dont worry about him. Your taking up for her. Take it from a romantic guy that doing that coconut oil thigh rub and your not hitting is a bad move. Spending the night and not hitting is bad too. She has to desire you. No longer enter her "lair" ( home ) unless shes inviting you over to fvck. Have her come to your place. You need to be flirting sexually. Ask her if the thigh rub made her horny. Anyway you probably did a bunch of stuff her guy wont do and put yourself in the role of "massage guy". What she going to tell her friends? Theyll say "did you fvck him?" She will say "no" and offer an explanation. Actually talking this one out i think its imperative you get off these thoughts about her and fvck a girl who desirez you asap at least three times over a few days to get your head right.

 

[peanutbuttablunts]

Hmm so don't invite her over tonight?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Hmm so don't invite her over tonight?

When the last time you saw her? Ask once after that leave her alone. Its best to let her wonder.

 

[flowtheory]

Hmm so don't invite her over tonight?

Her making you sleep in a different area was obviously not the best, but at the same time she maybe doesn’t want to appear too easy. You still made physical contact and by the sounds of that, she liked it.

I would say her desire or interest isn’t SUPER high but that’s okay because she’s still receptive to your advances.
I think what you need to do is make a solid move and go for what you want rather than looking at what the other guy is doing or how she feels about it all.

Inviting her over now is probably last minute. You could if you wanted to. Or you could messsge her for a proper date later this week.
Inviting her over for ice cream is communicating you’ll want to get in her pants and it doesn’t sound like enough emotions have been generated for her to not contain herself with you.
A date later in the week would give you potential to create more feelings in her which will yield a better result later I think.

All depends on what you want from her.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Her making you sleep in a different area was obviously not the best, but at the same time she maybe doesn’t want to appear too easy. You still made physical contact and by the sounds of that, she liked it.

I would say her desire or interest isn’t SUPER high but that’s okay because she’s still receptive to your advances.
I think what you need to do is make a solid move and go for what you want rather than looking at what the other guy is doing or how she feels about it all.

Inviting her over now is probably last minute. You could if you wanted to. Or you could messsge her for a proper date later this week.
Inviting her over for ice cream is communicating you’ll want to get in her pants and it doesn’t sound like enough emotions have been generated for her to not contain herself with you.
A date later in the week would give you potential to create more feelings in her which will yield a better result later I think.

All depends on what you want from her.

He already bypass proper date with the coconut oil thigh massage. Start the sexual banter by asking if she got horny and proceed.

 

[Bullbearpig]

She gets massages from you and you get nothing in return? Even made you sleep in another room? You're on your way to the LJBF talk.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What happened?

 

[peanutbuttablunts]

She gets massages from you and you get nothing in return? Even made you sleep in another room? You're on your way to the LJBF talk.

You guys are 100% right. I think what it was is she had mild interest, judging by the fact that she didn't just straight reject me (and other signs), she was probably testing to see if I was more of a man than the other dude that's after her. About the massage, a lil before that I asked her when she would take me home, this is after she came down and tried falling asleep next to me, she said "anytime you want to", I started to rub her back but her friend's cut things short and she had to go, it felt like things were going in a good direction, which is the whole reason I invited her over later in the first place

What happened?

Well, being the retard that I am, I invited her over for the ice cream and etc. She texted back fairly quick saying that she hadn't even gotten on the river yet (she was gonna float on an intertube with friends), but that she would let me know. Then never texted back, which tbqh surprised me that she would text back quick initially then blow me off later (why not just ignore straight out? Would've probably even looked less bitchy imo bc she could just say she didn't have her phone or something bc she on the river). Either way I'm reading this as she's no longer interested in me, what do you guys think? I'm going to see her tomorrow at work, how should I do things? Is there any chance at all and if there is how should I play it? Ignore her completely? Say hi but don't ask about why she didn't text back? Straight ask her why she flakes?

Either way I will for sure be seeing her and she flaked with full understanding that we'd be seeing each other again at work? I'm assuming she has no respect for me and any attraction she did have for me is now gone because I invited her over too soon after the last time I saw her. Obviously I never texted her again, I also already deleted her number, my gut feeling says just pull back fully and don't even acknowledge her. What do you guys think? She's really sexy and has high social standing at work so naturally I still want to bang but I doubt I have a chance now.

 

[peanutbuttablunts]

Okay so literally as I was writing this I got a text from her asking "are you in [insert town name] still?"

What the f*ck? This pisses me off more than anything. I feel like she's going to ask for a favor or some ****. Gut feeling is straight ignore her. What say you all?

 

[flowtheory]

Okay so literally as I was writing this I got a text from her asking "are you in [insert town name] still?"

What the f*ck? This pisses me off more than anything. I feel like she's going to ask for a favor or some ****. Gut feeling is straight ignore her. What say you all?

You have to play it off like her not responding or whatever had NO effect on you. You invited her for ice cream, because why not? Just be cool and laconic with her over text. Aloof but fun; like she’s a chick you don’t have interest in.

I imagine you’ve come on strong and as a nice guy with her, so she knows she has you in the bag.

The goal here is to still be you, just don’t slot yourself in to the friend zone. You’re getting bent out of shape because you’ve relied on her to validate you. Her interest isn’t high. But it’s not in the garbage. She’s lining you up as a beta orbiter by the sounds of things.

Your only move is to get her one on one, and then make a move but at the right moment. Then if she rejects you, at least you went for what you want and have your answer. And she will probably have some respect for you too rather than some guy who is just going to hang around and validate her when she’s not getting any type attention from her desired man

Respond naturally to her text, just don’t try too hard. Go for what you want man.
After you text her and she responds, set up a date. If she’s rejects, or says she’s busy or she’ll get back to you without a counter, it’s done. Let it go after that. If she’s favourable to the date and doesn’t flake, make a move on that date.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Okay so literally as I was writing this I got a text from her asking "are you in [insert town name] still?"

What the f*ck? This pisses me off more than anything. I feel like she's going to ask for a favor or some ****. Gut feeling is straight ignore her. What say you all?

No more favors. Your opening is to allow her to visit.

 

[peanutbuttablunts]

You have to play it off like her not responding or whatever had NO effect on you. You invited her for ice cream, because why not? Just be cool and laconic with her over text. Aloof but fun; like she’s a chick you don’t have interest in.

I imagine you’ve come on strong and as a nice guy with her, so she knows she has you in the bag.

The goal here is to still be you, just don’t slot yourself in to the friend zone. You’re getting bent out of shape because you’ve relied on her to validate you. Her interest isn’t high. But it’s not in the garbage. She’s lining you up as a beta orbiter by the sounds of things.

Your only move is to get her one on one, and then make a move but at the right moment. Then if she rejects you, at least you went for what you want and have your answer. And she will probably have some respect for you too rather than some guy who is just going to hang around and validate her when she’s not getting any type attention from her desired man

Respond naturally to her text, just don’t try too hard. Go for what you want man.
After you text her and she responds, set up a date. If she’s rejects, or says she’s busy or she’ll get back to you without a counter, it’s done. Let it go after that. If she’s favourable to the date and doesn’t flake, make a move on that date.

I'm no longer in that town and even if I was the person I was house sitting for came back. Should I lag on the response or what? Not sure how to appear that it didn't effect me..

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Use your time on a babe whose putting out ASAP. It will get your head right.

 

[peanutbuttablunts]

Use your time on a babe whose putting out ASAP. It will get your head right.

How should I respond to her? Should I even respond?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

How should I respond to her? Should I even respond?

Dont. She can knock on your door.