"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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We had the 12 week scan

Murk

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Took my girl to the hospital yesterday. Baby is healthy, extremely low risk of disabilities, the doctor said it was perfect.

I prayed in the morning. I thought it might actually be not alive as my girl has not had symptoms and her belly is flat AF. I envisioned a scenario we would be sad but part ways, it would give me an out, I tried not to think too hard about that and ultimately prayed if this baby is alive I need it strong and healthy.

The past 3 months have been like a fever dream. Anxiety, disbelief, worry, I decorated and decluttered my house, I worked, I didn't work out that much, I drank too much, I worried and stressed.

Now I feel like a new man, I'm so happy and excited. Seeing that healthy baby on the ultrasound, cute little nose, hands and feet. It's just like they say, it changes everything.

On the drive home, I got the news from a client that I have secured myself a residual income for the next 4 years that equals an average person's salary, without lifting a finger, plus VAT (taxes). You can never have enough money. I've been working like a slave all year, I made a thread last year when my business was going left. Now it's going so far right you could call me Adolf. I just needed a why and I have that. I just didn't want my child to be poor. Now it feels like, at 35, everything is going right.

I even find my girl more attractive. Sitting in the maternity ward, with the best looking girl there, I realised she's beautiful, carrying my child, intelligent, loves me. What the hell have I been complaining about.

Just giving a little update, I will be on this forum less and less moving forward. Decorating my place and looking to move into a bigger place with huge garden in 2025. It's grind time. If it doesn't work out, I will get that 10/10 latina I always wanted and have more kids. More money more options.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Congrats on your kiddo appearing healthy thus far, Murk




I prayed in the morning. I thought it might actually be not alive as my girl has not had symptoms and her belly is flat AF. I envisioned a scenario we would be sad but part ways, it would give me an out, I tried not to think too hard about that and ultimately prayed if this baby is alive I need it strong and healthy.
Be grateful that it also appears to be human
thus far o_O :eek:
 

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Keep sharpening the blade. Get that work out in regardless and keep praying. Don’t lose essence and momentum. God is blessing you with the greatest fruits of life after the struggle. Stay humble.
 
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