Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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We broke up... She dumped me... I'm still depressed... I need help guys!

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I'd agree with the guys posted above.

Do whatever you're passionate about, get back to what it is that makes your life worth living. Work on your website, go for a hike, hang out with your friends, mack girls (if you're feeling up for it, I wasn't for awhile after my last gf).

It's a cliche, but time heals all wounds. Combined with perspective, it provides an opportunity to look back and see what the relationship was really about, and what you really can learn from it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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oh i see you live in the states...guess you can't go clubbing, can you?? just use any social gatherings to your advantage!
 

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Lord Shinra said:
Take an example from my exes.

"4 of them wanna own me, 2 wanna stone me 1 says shes a friend of mine."
Ha that's not your ex, that's my favorite Eagles song. :p
 

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If her mom is fat, she'll be fat, too, almost certainly. Women turn into their mothers.

You really don't want a ltr or marriage at your age, because you can't get a girl who is at least five years younger (she's be underage). Staying single is a blessing, because the longer you stay single, the greater the age difference can be between you and the younger women you date.

Wasn't this a LDR anyway? That was a bad idea in the first place. You are better off now that such a lousy arrangement is finished.
 

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seek&destroy said:
oh i see you live in the states...guess you can't go clubbing, can you?? just use any social gatherings to your advantage!
I definitely will! I go to college now, but my classes are night classes since I work during the day (mostly old people in my classes).. I've thought about going to church, and I'm flying to California for a couple days this December to meet some friends.. And possibly make some new ones in the process!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bible_Belt said:
If her mom is fat, she'll be fat, too, almost certainly. Women turn into their mothers.

You really don't want a ltr or marriage at your age, because you can't get a girl who is at least five years younger (she's be underage). Staying single is a blessing, because the longer you stay single, the greater the age difference can be between you and the younger women you date.

Wasn't this a LDR anyway? That was a bad idea in the first place. You are better off now that such a lousy arrangement is finished.
Yeah, we were together for most of the time, and when I moved, we decided to stay together...

You're absolutely right B_B.. She will be fat too! Her brother is horribly fat! And my g/f has been struggling with her weight.. It's only 16, but I can see that it will become a problem in the future.. She's cute not, but yeah, in the future I'm sure she will be fat like her mother.

You're so right! Women age faster than men, and I plan to stay single for a long time.. I'd like to achieve my goals of finishing college and getting into business..

Thank you so much B_B! You are awesome dude!
 

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Serialized3 said:
I'd agree with the guys posted above.

Do whatever you're passionate about, get back to what it is that makes your life worth living. Work on your website, go for a hike, hang out with your friends, mack girls (if you're feeling up for it, I wasn't for awhile after my last gf).

It's a cliche, but time heals all wounds. Combined with perspective, it provides an opportunity to look back and see what the relationship was really about, and what you really can learn from it.
Thank you! As soon as I saw plane tickets for such a cheap price to California, I jumped at the opportunity to fly down there and meet my friends! That will definitely help me get my mind off of her and on other things..
 

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I'm going to work now... But I'd like to thank all you guys for all your encouragement and helpful advice! It has helped me a lot. I will keep you all updated on how things turn out. Thanks again!
 

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Today I just changed the password to my email addresses and my myspace account, and my ex sent me an email today. I'm so tempted to reply .. Damnit!! :( It hurts.. I know the right thing to do is to completely cut off contact!
 
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