We broke up but I can't go NC just yet...

[skinnyguy]

This is exactly why I only go for college aged HB.

Women my age or older either are divorced, have children, or want to get married tomorrow. College girls are so submissive cause they haven’t been jaded by life yet.

 

[Fireballs]

Because she's amazing, beautiful and I'm extremely attracted to her.

I'm not into the Instagram generation who like to post photos of their backside.

My ex doesn't even like having a picture taken but I don't know why. She drives me wild.

You’re only 32 .. plenty of beautiful 20 something year olds out there who don’t have kids .. best years or nothing

I really hope you change your mind about going on the trip with her .. don’t think it’s going to do you any good

 

[sazc]

I'd drop her because she booked a 2 week vacation and now, from what you say 'money is tight'. Money was tight when you booked the vaycay, she just made a very poor decision about where to spend hers.

Have you EVER considered that she is trying to get you to OFFER to cover he vacation? Sure, she might be an 'upstanding woman' and 'would never ask you for the money' but by creating all this drama and relationship strife because 'she's feeling stressed financially' you cant tell me she isnt hoping that you arent going to come running to her financial white knight rescue....?

 

[MrJack]

I'd drop her because she booked a 2 week vacation and now, from what you say 'money is tight'. Money was tight when you booked the vaycay, she just made a very poor decision about where to spend hers.

Have you EVER considered that she is trying to get you to OFFER to cover he vacation? Sure, she might be an 'upstanding woman' and 'would never ask you for the money' but by creating all this drama and relationship strife because 'she's feeling stressed financially' you cant tell me she isnt hoping that you arent going to come running to her financial white knight rescue....?

This, this, and THIS

 

[Fzatf]

@Designer Man Have you tried reading your own posts from a third party perspective? If you read the same things from another poster would you tell him to cling to this relationship, or would you tell him to move on?

I can understand why you want this relationship to work. I've been there myself with my own oneitus. It sucks and it's hard to see clearly when all you want to do is save your relationship. However, you need to move on.

You should really just take the hit of what you spent on the vacation and not go. You need to date available women and start having sex until you realize your ex wasn't all that special. Preferably the women you date won't be single moms.

It's hard to read this thread and I don't know if anyone is getting through to you, but you sound pretty set in your thoughts even though you should take the advice that's being given.

 

[skinnyguy]

Once you stick your penis in other women, you’ll look back and laugh at this post

 

[Designer Man]

At this moment in time she has virtually no interest because I've knocked it all out of her with accusations and questioning. She's not the most affectionate, communicative type anyway and when she's backing off I would question why and what's going on instead of keeping my cool and showing her I'm not bothered. I did put her on a pedestal and she knew that.

She doesn't think things can be fixed due to everything that's happened. It's been going on for about 18 months and I always tell her I'll stop accusing her or questioning her feelings but I'll do it again and again. I really need to stop.

I want to have a sit down talk with her and clear the air. Get everything out there from both sides without the need for shouting. Getting her alone to do this is a task in itself as she's working a lot of hours and hasn't much free time.

I think it's best I take a back step for now and let her reach out to me. When she wants to talk things through it's going to be on my terms and my way.

 

[Designer Man]

I'd drop her because she booked a 2 week vacation and now, from what you say 'money is tight'. Money was tight when you booked the vaycay, she just made a very poor decision about where to spend hers.

Have you EVER considered that she is trying to get you to OFFER to cover he vacation? Sure, she might be an 'upstanding woman' and 'would never ask you for the money' but by creating all this drama and relationship strife because 'she's feeling stressed financially' you cant tell me she isnt hoping that you arent going to come running to her financial white knight rescue....?

She doesn't want my money. Even if I put it in her hand she would refuse it. She doesn't tell me what's going on because she doesn't think I understand and says I'm only interested in myself and the gym. She says she can't speak to me about stuff like that because she doesn't think I am understanding.

She's not the best with money. We booked the vacation last October and she had to work every hour god sent to pay for it. It was a struggle but she really wants to go. My advice was to not have a vacation this year and focus on clearing your debts but she said " I'm not missing out on a vacation and I want (child) to have a vacation as well"

 

[sazc]

She doesn't want my money. Even if I put it in her hand she would refuse it. She doesn't tell me what's going on because she doesn't think I understand and says I'm only interested in myself and the gym. She says she can't speak to me about stuff like that because she doesn't think I am understanding.

She's not the best with money. We booked the vacation last October and she had to work every hour god sent to pay for it. It was a struggle but she really wants to go. My advice was to not have a vacation this year and focus on clearing your debts but she said " I'm not missing out on a vacation and I want (child) to have a vacation as well"

She makes poor financial decisions and will continue to do so for the rest of her life. If you are married, she will make poor financial decisions with your money. If you continue to only date, she will continue to make poor financial decisions with her money.

Regardless of if you are married or not, she will continue to make poor financial decisions and bring stress and strife into the relationship. This situation is a cycle she will repeat on you.

I love how she brought this on herself, with her very poor decision making, yet is blaming the "problem" on you because you are such a d1ck she can't talk to you about it, because you won't understand, therefore it's your fault there is strife in the relationship.

Lovely

 

[Murk]

She's not the best with money. We booked the vacation last October and she had to work every hour god sent to pay for it. It was a struggle but she really wants to go. My advice was to not have a vacation this year and focus on clearing your debts but she said " I'm not missing out on a vacation and I want (child) to have a vacation as well"

Bro you said she works hard and has a good job... if that's the case she shouldn't have to "work every hour god sent to pay for it". You're contradicting yourself. This girl is low quality.

"She's not the best with money." Low quality.

"My advice was to not have a vacation this year and focus on clearing your debts but she said "I'm not missing out on a vacation and I want (child) to have a vacation as well" Low Quality

B!tch doesn't have her priorities in order. She would rather give her child a holiday and make it happy for 14 days, then have the child watch mummy upset and stressed out for the next 10 years because the stupid idiot can't handle money or prioritise needs and wants of a child, or even herself. I never had ANY holiday growing up, we couldn't afford it. Children need stable home lives and stable, happy parents, both of them. This women is fvcking up on the most basic job she has - raising her child.

You are also low quality because your mentality is that of a 15 year old boy, FOH, both of you. Stop making threads here.

 

[Designer Man]

Bro you said she works hard and has a good job... if that's the case she shouldn't have to "work every hour god sent to pay for it". You're contradicting yourself. This girl is low quality.

"She's not the best with money." Low quality.

"My advice was to not have a vacation this year and focus on clearing your debts but she said "I'm not missing out on a vacation and I want (child) to have a vacation as well" Low Quality

B!tch doesn't have her priorities in order. She would rather give her child a holiday and make it happy for 14 days, then have the child watch mummy upset and stressed out for the next 10 years because the stupid idiot can't handle money or prioritise needs and wants of a child, or even herself. I never had ANY holiday growing up, we couldn't afford it. Children need stable home lives and stable, happy parents, both of them. This women is fvcking up on the most basic job she has - raising her child.

You are also low quality because your mentality is that of a 15 year old boy, FOH, both of you. Stop making threads here.

The child doesn't go without, she is very lucky and well looked after. Struggles are just a part of every day life being a single parent and trying to run a household, she works hard all year round so effectively deserves to have a holiday. The baby's Dad only pays what's required through the government and doesn't help out with anything else. Dance classes and swimming lessons cost money as does food and clothes.

It's understandable she's stressed, it's not easy and can be overwhelming.

 

[sazc]

The child doesn't go without, she is very lucky and well looked after. Struggles are just a part of every day life being a single parent and trying to run a household, she works hard all year round so effectively deserves to have a holiday. The baby's Dad only pays what's required through the government and doesn't help out with anything else. Dance classes and swimming lessons cost money as does food and clothes.

It's understandable she's stressed, it's not easy and can be overwhelming.

Sure, sure, excuses, excuses but she's letting her stress affect her relationship. If she valued you, and having you in her life, she'd not take her stress out on your relationship

 

[sazc]

And, no, she doesn't "deserve" a vacation. You know who deserves a vacation? People who can AFFORD a vacation.

Any other situation amounts to someone setting themselves up for failure and the ability to claim they are a victim.

Good luck

 

[Alvafe]

The child doesn't go without, she is very lucky and well looked after. Struggles are just a part of every day life being a single parent and trying to run a household, she works hard all year round so effectively deserves to have a holiday. The baby's Dad only pays what's required through the government and doesn't help out with anything else. Dance classes and swimming lessons cost money as does food and clothes.

It's understandable she's stressed, it's not easy and can be overwhelming.

dude just giver her you coc!< too, your balls she have it afor a long time.

woe is me huh? she open her legs to a moron who want nothing to do with her (I wonder why feh), pay for child support becasue he is forced and I bet she don't even want him to get close to the kid.
your problem, you belive she deserve anything with she don't, she don't deserve a holiday, she did nothing awesome so get one, if she did whe would have the money and not strugling, wonder how many times you let things go because you don't have money, sure you bust your ass so you deserve to have a ferrari or a maclaren, don't matte if you can't pay, right? the world works like that

that was sarcasm btw

again dude, just call her here or stop to even try, you want what exactly from here? improve? or we stroke your ego telling you are right? we can help with the first.

 

[Designer Man]

dude just giver her you coc!< too, your balls she have it afor a long time.

woe is me huh? she open her legs to a moron who want nothing to do with her (I wonder why feh), pay for child support becasue he is forced and I bet she don't even want him to get close to the kid.
your problem, you belive she deserve anything with she don't, she don't deserve a holiday, she did nothing awesome so get one, if she did whe would have the money and not strugling, wonder how many times you let things go because you don't have money, sure you bust your ass so you deserve to have a ferrari or a maclaren, don't matte if you can't pay, right? the world works like that

that was sarcasm btw

again dude, just call her here or stop to even try, you want what exactly from here? improve? or we stroke your ego telling you are right? we can help with the first.

We haven't spoke all day today not a text or call. Do you think there's someone else? She said there isn't but you never know. I would find it hard to think there was.

She's not even reaching out!

 

[Glassguy]

Bro you said she works hard and has a good job... if that's the case she shouldn't have to "work every hour god sent to pay for it". You're contradicting yourself. This girl is low quality.

"She's not the best with money." Low quality.

"My advice was to not have a vacation this year and focus on clearing your debts but she said "I'm not missing out on a vacation and I want (child) to have a vacation as well" Low Quality

B!tch doesn't have her priorities in order. She would rather give her child a holiday and make it happy for 14 days, then have the child watch mummy upset and stressed out for the next 10 years because the stupid idiot can't handle money or prioritise needs and wants of a child, or even herself. I never had ANY holiday growing up, we couldn't afford it. Children need stable home lives and stable, happy parents, both of them. This women is fvcking up on the most basic job she has - raising her child.

You are also low quality because your mentality is that of a 15 year old boy, FOH, both of you. Stop making threads here.

The child doesn't go without, she is very lucky and well looked after. Struggles are just a part of every day life being a single parent and trying to run a household, she works hard all year round so effectively deserves to have a holiday. The baby's Dad only pays what's required through the government and doesn't help out with anything else. Dance classes and swimming lessons cost money as does food and clothes.

It's understandable she's stressed, it's not easy and can be overwhelming.

Just get the fvck off the board you troll.

 

[Designer Man]

Just get the fvck off the board you troll.

Troll? This is straight up real talk brother.

 

[Designer Man]

You are talking out of both sides of your mouth. You just said she has no one else you know for a fact, and now you are panicking over someone else.

I'm going through a tough time and not thinking clearly. Things are really bad between us and I have a horrible feeling in my stomach.

I text her this last night:

"I've apologised for my behaviour over the last 18 months. It's up to you what you want to do"

She text back "We have to see how the vacation goes"

I've never known things so bad and the fact she isn't texting and seems unaffected by this hurts even more. I was reading back over texts from 12 months ago when things were good and just miss how we used to be.

My only hope is to have a good vacation with her but at the same time show her I'm not needy and want to be with her.

Over the next 10 days I'm going to keep a low profile. Easier said than done when my fingers are itching to type something to her.

 

[The Diver]

I text her this last night:

"I've apologised for my behaviour over the last 18 months.

but at the same time show her I'm not needy

Haha, this two ^ can't go together

 

[Alvafe]

Haha, this two ^ can't go together

funny is he want to show he is not needy, but he don't talk with her for a day and he have a break down