we always argue

[Jay-X]

recently, i've been arguing a lot with my girlfriend, for the stupidest things:


1. i drink pretty often and she thinks that i'm on my way to become an alcoholic, while i perfectly know how to handle myself

2. she wants me to wear my hair long, while i prefer it medium-length (it looks afro when it's too long). i just called her to tell her that we can't meet today, since i have to cut my hair and she got mad. i closed the call and she called me immediately after and we peaced out, but it's pretty stressful, though.

3. she's jealous of my female friends and she doesn't approve when i go sleeping over to their place



i don't want to leave her, since we've been together for a year and we love each other a lot, plus we both are really kinky in bed and the sex is great
how can i make her understand that i can handle myself? i mean, i'm not going to become an alcoholic and i'm not gonna cheat on her with my friends!

 

[Smooth Player 056]

When a couple first starts dating, people focus on the good things and try to impress the other. Once you guys settle in and become more comfortable with eachother people start nit picking at faults.

If your unhappy about the way shes treating you tell her. you guys have been going out for a year, so hopefully you can communicate to her what your thoughts are about her jealousy and hair etc., and shell respect that.

If not...it may be time to end it.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by Jay-X

3. she's jealous of my female friends and she doesn't approve when i go sleeping over to their place

Haha, i found that humorous. She an ungreatful biznatch if she wants you to change for her. I had a girl that did that **** but i kept doing what i was doing.

 

[LikRetsam]

Originally posted by Jay-X
stupidest things:

3. she's jealous of my female friends and she doesn't approve when i go sleeping over to their place

Perhaps you should try being a bit more open-minded, Jay-X.

 

[DJ4Real]

Turn the situation around. Would you allow your girl to spend the night over your male friends home?

Come on now.

 

[Zod]

Originally posted by DJ4Real
Turn the situation around. Would you allow your girl to spend the night over your male friends home?

Come on now.

He lives in Italy, one of my friends who used to live in Chile told me that guys there (and many other places in Europe) hold hands / hug etc. I'm guessing that it's a lot more natural in Italy than say here in America.

 

[Porky]

Originally posted by Jay-X
recently, i've been arguing a lot with my girlfriend, for the stupidest things:


1. i drink pretty often and she thinks that i'm on my way to become an alcoholic, while i perfectly know how to handle myself

3. she's jealous of my female friends and she doesn't approve when i go sleeping over to their place

1) You've mentioned before that you sometimes drink by yourself, all alone, just because you like the feeling. That sounded sketchy to me when you said it and it would be stupid of you to ignore your girlfriend's concerns on the issue.

2) listen to Lik and give me a break here. If you compromise with your girlfriend by agreeing not to sleep at another girl's house, it won't make you weak or less of a man. it would make you reasonable, unless you're honestly willing to let her spend the night with other guys.

 

[sinner]

Originally posted by Jay-X
recently, i've been arguing a lot with my girlfriend, for the stupidest things:


1. i drink pretty often and she thinks that i'm on my way to become an alcoholic, while i perfectly know how to handle myself

2. she wants me to wear my hair long, while i prefer it medium-length (it looks afro when it's too long). i just called her to tell her that we can't meet today, since i have to cut my hair and she got mad. i closed the call and she called me immediately after and we peaced out, but it's pretty stressful, though.

3. she's jealous of my female friends and she doesn't approve when i go sleeping over to their place



i don't want to leave her, since we've been together for a year and we love each other a lot, plus we both are really kinky in bed and the sex is great
how can i make her understand that i can handle myself? i mean, i'm not going to become an alcoholic and i'm not gonna cheat on her with my friends!

I agree with your girl on the 1st & 3rd points. Give it a thought.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Originally posted by Zod
He lives in Italy, one of my friends who used to live in Chile told me that guys there (and many other places in Europe) hold hands / hug etc. I'm guessing that it's a lot more natural in Italy than say here in America.

not in the uk it dont happen! Hug well it can happen nothing wrong with that, but holding hands, i just dont think thta happens unless they are fags!

 

[Jay-X]

1st. italians hug other guys like, after not seeing each other for a long time (after summer holiday for example), not every time we see each other, but hugging friends or acquaintances of the opposite sex is a really normal thing, even when you don't know them well. but i never saw 2 heteros holding hands without joking. just girls do it

2nd. i've quitted drinking by myself, i just drink when i'm at a party or out with my friends, since 2 weeks ago i had a bad liver pain. but she doesn't trust me about me reducing the amount of drinking

3rd. i don't go to their places all by myself, i usually bring some buddies she (my girlfriend) also knows. so she would know if something happened... i would invite her too, if her parents allowed her to sleep with me outside their place