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Ways to sexually escalate while cooking dinner

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Rubato

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I'm trying something new and am making dinner with one of my HB's tomorrow night.

While my secret recipe for spaghetti and meatballs is simmering (it takes about 40 minutes), I was going to bring her in to her living room and give her a followup dance lesson. When I met her at the bar, I found out she used to do ballet and gave her an impromptu Latin ballroom dance lesson. I'd like to have some good sexual tension going on prior to the dance lesson though because the 2 dances I'm going to continue to teach her are extremely easy to sexualize - rumba and Argentine tango.

So does anyone have any suggestions about how to sexually escalate during dinner preparation? I'm in the middle of a hardcore study session and don't feel extremely creative... what I've come up with are things that remind me of what a high school kid would do, like sticking my finger in the tomato paste can and drawing a smiley face on her cheek with it. I feel limited in what I'm going to be able to pull off escalation wise because she still lives with her parents (we're both undergraduates) and they are good about giving us time to our selves... maybe this is a limiting belief I need to get over (probably not though), but I have a real issue with doing things like slapping a girl's a$$ in front of her mom. So maybe what I'm really asking for are ideas for playful/sexual things I could do while we make the meal.

Any suggestions?
 

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Rubato

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dereklovesugly said:
Make something more original than spaghetti and meatballs?
Mmhhmm.... I'm going to bust out my smoked apple glazed lamb chops for this girl on our second date :rolleyes:

I don't know how it gets more original than a recipe you invented yourself. And you've obviously never had my spaghetti and meatballs before. But that's all right, because it makes people fall in love with me when they eat it.

It is that good.
 

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I'm just saying, it sounds generic, but do you. If you have your own twist, so it up... I used to run a couple kitchens back when I was a few years younger so I'm a bomb ass cook lol.
 

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Cook dinner. Eat it at a table. Wash the dishes. Put Constantine on. Sit on your bed with her. Kino and escalate. You can be f.cking in about 10 minutes of watching that movie, it really is that sh!t.
 

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If she's going to be there the whole time you're preparing dinner, then why not try showing her how you put it together and what's unique about it? Unless it's so secret that you'd have to kill her, obviously.

I used to cook with a girl I was dating earlier this year, and actually it provides a lot of opportunities to get extremely close and flirtatious. Open a bottle of wine first so that you can each have a glass to sip as you're making dinner, and stand nice and close to her as you show her what you're doing. Not only does it show her that you have good attention to detail (and that can imply attention to detail in other areas of a relationship, if you get my point), but you can stand slightly behind her with one arm around her waist and the other hand giving her something to taste like one of the ingredients or the sauce (use your imagination). If the mood's right, then cooking together can actually be extremely sexy. It'll also make her respect you a lot, if you get it right.
 

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dereklovesugly said:
I'm just saying, it sounds generic, but do you. If you have your own twist, so it up... I used to run a couple kitchens back when I was a few years younger so I'm a bomb ass cook lol.

Hell yeah man. I love to cook too. As for RUBATO, OP, I don't see why she couldn't sample the food right off your fingers? You can easily imagine scenarios where she'd suck sauce or something off a finger.


Bible_Belt said:
I like to make sexist jokes about being attracted to a woman because she's in the kitchen.

Something like, "Girl if you could only cook, you'd damn near be wife-material," etc etc etc. Check out bodybuilding.com for more trolling information


Vice said:
Flick water at her!
Came in to post this...I'd also throw ingredients at her; if you cooking w/ me be prepared to get dirty.
 

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Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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