Ways to save a girl from an unwanted advance? (in a different country)

[Solon]

What would you do to help a girl out that was in this situation? For point of reference this happened in Japan. and the guys were all American from what I gather from the article.

"Around 4 AM, some dudes were in a little cluster, all looking like ALI G. I assumed they were gay until they started surrounding some Japanese girl and trying to feel her ass. And succeeding. What was sad was, she had no idea what to do. Her solution was, “move 3 feet to the left.” One dude followed her and started trying to freak-dance on her. She was clearly making the “**** this!” face, but nothing in her upbringing had prepared her for how to deal."

I know ways to stop this crap in the US. (IE: Playing the friend/boyfriend to help her and pull her away and all that jazz.) However I'm not sure how to handle it when I'm in Japan. I don't know how the girls would react over there to the help, and I don't want to chance being mispercived by the girl as being with some guy pulling that (since I'm a foreigner as well). The scene where this happened is a small one, and it just so happens to be the scene I'll be hanging around once I get to Japan. I don't want to get a bad reputation for doing the right thing. Ya know? lol

Any stories on defusing situations like this would be a boon, or advice in general on stopping guys without using violence/fear tactics. Japan is different in many ways I hear. Which is why I'm looking for advice. I hear it's considered somewhat barbaric to respond with Violence/anger over there, and foreigners have a bad rep for doing just that. I don't want to be that guy.

 

[ariet]

you should post this in the anything else forum
dont japanese ppl get molested on the train?

you should walk past and if she ask for help then help

 

[Solon]

If a mod asks me to repost I will.

As for just waiting till someone asks... I can not do that. If I see something wrong happening I fix it. Especially when it's blatantly wrong.

 

[pua1989]

im currently in argentina where the guys are hounds for women especially american women. ive been on the dance floor with some americans and these girls im with i can tell get uncomfortable when a guy or two comes up to them and does similar things. even so, i wait for the girl to give me some kind of signal. generally she will pull on my shoulder or back and give me that face of "get me outta here" and when she does that i just literally move up to her and kind of dance/push the guys outta the way.

but the main thing is im not trying to ruin the girls fun so i wait until i know she wants me to do something, and when she does just push em outta the way or "steal" her from them

 

[The Muscle Guy]

You're suffering from a severe case of captain save a ho.

Women lost all their privileges with the coming of feminism.

 

[Solon]

For common occurrences I agree with you Pua, but when things are a little more apparent, and the girl seems a freaked out by it and doesn't know what to do(like the girl mentioned in the article) I tend to step in. 95% of the time with a thank you afterward.

As for being "captain save a ho".. That is hardly the case lol. I help anyone that I think needs it. I just don't like to see people go through unnecessary trial and tribulation. I intervene when it gets to the point of being excessive and/or it doesn't seem as though they can handle the situation themselves. Which is why feminism is a moot point in my eyes in relation to the discussion. It's more a matter of just being a human.

 

[The Muscle Guy]

For common occurrences I agree with you Pua, but when things are a little more apparent, and the girl seems a freaked out by it and doesn't know what to do(like the girl mentioned in the article) I tend to step in. 95% of the time with a thank you afterward.

As for being "captain save a ho".. That is hardly the case lol. I help anyone that I think needs it. I just don't like to see people go through unnecessary trial and tribulation. I intervene when it gets to the point of being excessive and/or it doesn't seem as though they can handle the situation themselves. Which is why feminism is a moot point in my eyes in relation to the discussion. It's more a matter of just being a human.

If you would do the same thing for a man, then that's cool. I never liked bullies and confronted them at every opportunity.

 

[Solon]

If you would do the same thing for a man, then that's cool. I never liked bullies and confronted them at every opportunity.

Always. My father was the same way. Guess that's where I got it from.

 

[prairiedog24]

If you would do the same thing for a man, then that's cool. I never liked bullies and confronted them at every opportunity.

haha, that was me in highschool and college. It's amazing I never got beat up. Grabbed by my collar and slammed into a locker a few times, but I still won every confrontation just because I didn't back down and dared them to do something more so I could get their asses thrown out of school. They never took me up on it. I was really stupid in my younger days. I spoke loudly and my 5'9" skinny frame was one very small stick. In a dumb way, I'm kinda proud of myself for it. I hate bullies too.

To the OP, I would just confront them the way you do in America. Let them raise the ire of anger or violence or at least force your hand. You could pretend to do the boyfriend thing, but if you're not sure how the girl would respond, just simply tell them "alright guys, you've had your fun, enough" straight up and if they don't stop, up the ante by informing them that their behavior constitutes assault (fear of unwanted touching) and battery (actual unwanted touching) and you will call the police. If that doesn't work, then force is your only option.

 

[Perseus]

For common occurrences I agree with you Pua, but when things are a little more apparent, and the girl seems a freaked out by it and doesn't know what to do(like the girl mentioned in the article) I tend to step in. 95% of the time with a thank you afterward.

As for being "captain save a ho".. That is hardly the case lol. I help anyone that I think needs it. I just don't like to see people go through unnecessary trial and tribulation. I intervene when it gets to the point of being excessive and/or it doesn't seem as though they can handle the situation themselves. Which is why feminism is a moot point in my eyes in relation to the discussion. It's more a matter of just being a human.

Word

 

[King Turi]

Well if you think can take 4 dudes at once, go up to them and say "wtf" and start beatin' their arse down, or you can try and negotiate and make them go away.

Or you go get your mates and flog the crap out of them in a brawl.

Either way, I personally always help out someone in need, whether they are male or female.

If it's just an argument on the street, then nah, none of my business, but if it gets physical I feel compelled to help out.

Oh, and you could always call the police?