Waves come less and less regarding ex.... But sometimes... WHAM!

[Johnny Alias]

It's been like 7-8 months.

She got engaged a few weeks ago.

Mostly I'm okay. Gets better and better. I broke it off because she's
1) alcoholic drug addict
2) she's 43 and aging fast. I'm 5 years younger.
3) she's 80k in debt and no job.
4) she's fricking insanely mean when drunk

I know I know. Apocalyptic mess right? Yeah I know that. We were together for four years and I should have dropped her ass after four days. She was insanely hot and ignored all the flags.

Now? It's mostly good. I bang like 3 chicks a week. Haven't found an LTR but don't care too much.

Still... I occasionally hear about her running around doing mad amounts of coke and having threesomes with the new dude. We only did that once.

Course I also hear about her freezing the pipes in her house and trashing her basement, fighting with him, and getting hospitalized three times with health problems.

Would I trade my sanity for the sexcapades??? Most of the time it's no... But once in a while...

So stupid. We would have gotten divorced in a few years and she'd have cleaned me out. Her looks are almost gone. Just a couple more years....

Sorry. Needed to vent. Stupid waves. It'll pass...

 

[Johnny Alias]

I'm doing better about that. Cutting people off when they try and talk but goddamned people like to talk!

Appreciate the comment. Between this being a boring town where people NEED something to talk about it's not always easy.

Just a wave...

 

[MikeOck]

Tell all of your mutual acquaintances not to talk to you about her. If they start, remind them and change the conversation.

 

[GotED?]

Be aware of the low self-disciplining psychology of subconscious human behavior that destroys a part of one's good life:



"You want what you can't have - and when you have it, you take it for granted".



Don't fall for this trap - the human mind tends to FORGET about the BAD times as time flies and RECALL only the GOOD times when it comes to previous relationships.

I would also question your relationship with your own mother growing up as a child - was she a basket case of emotional turmoil. It is usually a comfortable pattern that we men who gets mentally phucked early on in childhood that can't overcome the first woman we learned to love (and unsuccessful), which is our mother. We continue this phucked up pattern by attracting unconsciously equally phucked up women to replay our childhood bonds that we never quite figured out successfully.


Be well.

Exodus

 

[apprenticedj]

I'm in the same boat Johnny

My ex didn't have any of the issues that you describe but the feeling is the same. Like you said, it comes in waves. I'll go through periods of time and not feel down at all but then BANG! You get hit with a wall of sadness. I know it's not manly to admit but it's the truth. The nostalgia creeps in, you long for the good old days when things were great, when you were at your happiest with her, at least that's how I feel.

You've had lots of sex but have you connected with any of these women on a deeper level? I know this site is all about smashing and conquesting but that alone doesn't heal old wounds. I've hooked up with a few girls since we separated but I haven't had the same connection with someone new.

I don't think I'll truly be over it until I do. Just my two cents.

 

[apprenticedj]

This is fantastic!!!!

I need to print this out and read it daily.

Don't fall for this trap - the human mind tends to FORGET about the BAD times as time flies and RECALL only the GOOD times when it comes to previous relationships.

 

[GotED?]

From apprenticedj - I know this site is all about smashing and conquesting but that alone doesn't heal old wounds.


Not all true.

There are a few Master and Senior Don Juans on this forum who actively tries to get men here to look past JUST SEX when they seek out women.

Sex in itself will entrap a man who lacks self-discipline and with a weak emotional structure - he will get ONEITIS just by seeking out constant sexual fulfillment with women.

I personally advocate LTR (those of you who are sick of my ANTI-DUMP's MACHINE posts) over ONS or short-term flings. I also try to teach other men here that what comes around goes around - learn not to use but respect women, and they will come to do so for you (if not, NEXT! LOL....).

I believe men can not run forever on an empty soul of just humpin' and dumpin' - it is a life of deep loneliness if a man can not experience the deep connection with a woman (and it is their choice of choosing quick sexual conquests and moving on, picking low quality women always that are not LTR material).

It is sad for me every once in a while to see someone starts a thread on here about how they have phucked so many women and had so many ONS, but in the end, they still feel so empty deep down and want something fulfilling. There is nothing wrong with any preference - but if you want LTR, I am more than willing to help through a DJ who's in pain (and I have men who privately email me for assistance and I am happy to do so).

Be well.

Exodus

 

[Bokanovsky]

It's been like 7-8 months.

She got engaged a few weeks ago.

Mostly I'm okay. Gets better and better. I broke it off because she's
1) alcoholic drug addict
2) she's 43 and aging fast. I'm 5 years younger.
3) she's 80k in debt and no job.
4) she's fricking insanely mean when drunk

I know I know. Apocalyptic mess right? Yeah I know that. We were together for four years and I should have dropped her ass after four days. She was insanely hot and ignored all the flags.

Now? It's mostly good. I bang like 3 chicks a week. Haven't found an LTR but don't care too much.

Still... I occasionally hear about her running around doing mad amounts of coke and having threesomes with the new dude. We only did that once.

Course I also hear about her freezing the pipes in her house and trashing her basement, fighting with him, and getting hospitalized three times with health problems.

Would I trade my sanity for the sexcapades??? Most of the time it's no... But once in a while...

So stupid. We would have gotten divorced in a few years and she'd have cleaned me out. Her looks are almost gone. Just a couple more years....

Sorry. Needed to vent. Stupid waves. It'll pass...

Dude, she is 43 years old. Can you say depreciating asset? Why would you want an old hag like that anyway unless you are an old guy yourself (meaning you are well over 50).

Young(er) men who go for old hags are only one step above homosexuals on the social hierarchy ladder in my book. It's a sad lifestyle that betrays desperation, lack of options and, quite possibly, unresolved mommy issues. Just say no to wrinkles and cellulite.