wats wrong with me?

[dave007]

i have a problem
i am fairly attractive but not a chick magnet
i have good sense of humour wich is unique in its way n even have bin commented on it
look wise i wud be average
there is this girl i like
she is approached by boys so often n she also has interest in me i have caught her looking at me many times
but i cant go up n talk to her
its something inside that pulls me
i dont kno what it is ..i make up my mind that i wud do it but then wen she shows up i just cant initiate convo often
but i do fine when she starts off
some girls say that no girl wud ever like me wich i dont kno y
my past yrs till 9th grade werelike me being a nerd but now i have change quite a lot
but i still dont kno what to do
i have confidence but is there neway to fake it more?
n how do i make myself initiate a convo?

 

[mlurey]

You don't need to worry dude, most guys have problems getting girlfriends until their upperclass years in High schoor or even college.

Why?

Because most girls are attracted to older guys until a certain point. It's not uncommon knowledge that girls act 2-3 years more mature than boys of the same age.

Anything can be conversation starter from "What did you do to your hair!" or even a "I need an opinion about <x>, I'm writing an essay for english and <x>, what do you think?"

 

[VegasGuy56]

I didn't even read the post, but from the topic I'm going to say low self-esteem.

 

[Fender]

^^^Haha, spot on Vegas!

Anyways Dave, you gotta control yourself. Stop making excuses, and start taking action.

Generally, faking confidence is a bad thing...I know many people say "fake it till you make it," but it doesn't really help.

You gain confidence when you BELIEVE you are confident. You aren't "faking it"- you KNOW you're confident. You KNOW you are the Man. No faking, no acting. It's your REALITY. You'd be surprised how easy it is to change a belief about yourself.

Anyways, advice with this specific girl? I'd say make friends with her friends. Thats probably the best "indirect" way of getting to know her.

G'luck man!

 

[Donsing]

Fellow upcoming DJ (I hope) you need to understand that she is interested in you because she's looking at you. This is what you are going to do (it would be better if you do it when she looks at you): Go up to her and I say "Hi" "How's it going?". Something like this would work fine and if she's not interested then you be able to tell. Read the bible. I hope you can see the light .

 

[shydude]

Welcome to the man world my friend! Women are soo lazy they cant even get off their asses and approach men, Well we are predators, and it is out job to do it. When we were kids, girls were nothing. We had no crush on them, and as soon as we got out of the kinder garden we started to like girls more and more and more. You always been freinds with guys!! Girls were not a part of your life when you were a kid!! And thats why its so fukking hard to start a life with women! All you are is scared, its doesnt matter how ugly you are, or how good looking you are, all it is, is confidence, No man can become a Don Juan without believing in himself. YOu have to start believing in your reality, not others, you always have to wake up with your mind being positive! Life might end at any moment for us, its a tricky thing. One second you might celebrate your pops b-day, next sec you might get hit by a commet. If you wont start changing your life, no one else will. All it takes is time and cofidence and believe in your self. If i were you i would read the DJ bible. Good luck mate