"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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wat's with her??

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hi guys..i am new to this forum, been readin the stuffs here...real good stuff and i would like to ask a question and well it goes like this :

well me and my pal we take the commuter train every morning to work as usual and well there's this really cute girl who also takes the train like us there.
well the thing is, there's another guy who freaks her out there most of the time and she kinda like sticks to us most of the time. well she basically follows us sometimes , unless she's with her friend she would not make it an obvious thing by following us. but well sometimes even when i am alone and she's there she will follow me too. and well she often overhears our conversation, smiles when needed and even laughs at our hilarious conversations(between me and my pal). sometimes there are situations when both me and my pal would not board the train which is full and she would just get down from the train as well and wait with us. but of course all these while, none of us has even spoke to each other, except that my pal says she looks familiar to him, kinda like his friend's friend.
this has been goin on for the past 2 months until last week, when i was standin alone at the station waitin for my friend when she approached me and asked if i minded her asking me something. i said go on.
so she said we(me and my pal) looked familiar and she asked if we were from a particular high school last time. and well i clarified that my pal is from that high school and i was from a different high school in which she happened to be from the same high school as i was from. and well she said my pal looked familiar and he looked like her friend's friend and guessed about him right that he was married and stuff ( yes...he is married and get this , he was interested in her anyways which is why i never intended anything on her). after that rather brief chat(in which sadly i did not get her name and vice versa), she quietly went and sat. me on the other hand well i was kinda blur and did not look at her after that chat, i was just well thinkin and waitin for my friend.
when my friend reached the station i just dragged him aside and told him about it, in which he was dissapointed where she knew he was married.
anyway i told him to just talk to her since she knew him, though well another friend of mine who was there and also heard from me what happened insisted me on going and talking to her cause she approached me. and well however i got my pal to go up to her and speak to her(well she said she knew him anyway rite??) so well he approached her. and shockingly she did not seem the girl which came up to me and spoke, instead she was extremely cold and arrogant towards him, answering him monotonously and just ignoring, and on the whole journey she was suddenly lookin so pissed off. the next day she wasn't anywhere around the station, and soon we found that she was takin the earlier trains now.on Monday mornin i had to rush to work and i happened to be in the early train with her. well when we reached the interchange station she got into the train and well i did not reach the train in time, as the train closed, she was just looking at me all the way even until the train moved away. and well after that day i never saw her again in the station, where well i speculate that she might be takin a much much earlier train i guess.
i am really lost here.
i do not know wat happened and why she behaved like that.
any opinions?
thanx a bunch guys
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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what?

500 words of lame ass crap. Who gives a toss? Does it matter? Is this "Don Juan" discussion or, "gee I wanna understand every nuance of every thought some lame ass beitch ever thought" discussion?

What's the point, you wanna fukc her? What?
 

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since i am new here let me be a little more polite
i just wanna learn too
if i am not mistaken to be a DJ u still strive to learn things
so i wanna learn what went wrong here
i could've scored with the girl...who knows...so i am just learning
so u wanna give ur opinion based on ur wisdom which i pretty much see is missin rite now u can do so and i would appreciate it
if u wanna just criticize well then i suggest u keep ur gap to urself my man
thanx a bunch doofus
 

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fair enough

OK,

I will politely respond. The DJ rule is to not really give a toss about trying to figure her out but making her give a toss about trying to figure you out. I probably was a little rough on you there son but some of the posts you get in here from people claiming to be DJ's is fukcing pointless.

Make her pursue you by ignoring the beeitch or, simply say to her "whatsup?" Not like you really care but more that you see through her sheeit.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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