"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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CaliGuyInLondon

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watching a movie with this chick finally, on sunday. supposed to go to her mansion to do it. she and I kind of had a thing over the summer (before i found out about all this stuff, or used it more like it) and she kind of got over me and said i was too sensitive.

since then ive been using all the stuff from in here and she seems interested and wants to hang.

just wondering how much i should shoot for, ways i can kino escalate at her place and how forceful to be. she told me she likes forward so im thinknig maybe that to show her im not like i used to be i should be way more bold than i ever would have been? but how to balance not being too bold is my question i guess.

also the day of the date (sunday) should i call her earlier to make sure we are on? or is that a weak frame? should i just text her something like, does your theater play blue ray? and kind of imply im coming over? or just say ill be over at 9 and something that simple.

ideas?

thanks!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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cffrmw

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Kino escalation would be key, start small and if she responds positively then you know to keep going. and I usually just show up at the time we already talked about, but if you're afraid she might have forgot then yeah, just something implying that you're coming over, the blu-ray thing should be fine.
 

Joe Stud

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be cool for the first half of your date. dress well, use some killer cologne since she will be sitting near you. even during the 2nd half, as u r kinoing, act like its a no big thing. like you are so used to her, and it comes natural. ie... build her sexual tension slowly. dont forget the kino should include your hand falling on her thigh
 

Skydiver43127

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She invited you over to watch a movie. It's pretty much a done deal - escalate as fast as you want, rejection will be only temporary.

As for your fear of her flaking on you It's not totally unjustified. Call her for watever reason (can be totally unrelated to your arrangement) and finish with "ok, see you at ...". But think of something less geeky than "does it play blue-ray" - nothing less sexy than assuming you're actually going there to watch a movie and not for the girl.
 

Scars

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Call/text her starting a normal conversation that day, talk for a bit. Bust her balls a bit and then frame the conversation into something sexual. Get her emotions going so that way there's no chance of flaking.

Once you're over there do the same thing. Kino and escalate as far as you can. Be forward but not TOO forward. Try and mirror her in a way (meaning go only as fast as she is. pick up on her cues) but always be the aggressor.

If she withdrawls a bit do the same thing and make her want it even more. Or if she says "I don't think we should be doing this" then say "Yeah, you're right" then pull back. Work on flaring up her emotions again and getting her aroused then try again. Remember that girls talk with their bodies and not their mouths. Read her body language.

Good luck, and report back with how everything went. Bring rubbers, just in case.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Bible_Belt

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The 'movie at my place' date is about as close as you will ever get to a woman blatantly asking for sex. It's usually as direct as a girl can manage.
 

Thatfeel21

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I saw your last thread. Your going to watch a movie with that rape victim chick? Haa! Good luck, don't say we didn't warn you.
 
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