"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Watch her actions, not her words" yes, but to what extent?

jhonny9546

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Don't listen to what She says, watch what She does

Since I've been a part of you guys here, this has been the best advice ever.
I'm not here to say the reasons why it works, but it has helped me not only with women, but also with all the other people in my life.

Maybe you went out and the girls looked at you, and she noticed it, so at home she'll act a bit silly and say something to you, and then you understood that you don't have to stay there listening to what she says but what she does (maybe you'll have great sex or she'll simply be even more attached and feminine with you).
This was just an example, but there will be many other situations.

The fact is that there will be many times when what she says could be disrespectful, offend you, and you have clarified your limits and she won't do it anymore because she knows the consequences, but the fact remains that she will always be there to tell you things that bother you. For you it's a nuisance.

You understand the women's game, but you don't like to put up with this part of their "saying" at all, and it's a real nuisance.
In committed relationships, to varying degrees, it happens with all women.

It's that feeling where you're happy you understand how women work, but you're not happy that she says those things, that she has her tantrums, her anxieties...

It would be helpful to share your thoughts, perspective and behavior on this subject
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Been on here for over a decade and let me tell you a girls word is meaningless half the time that's why dating overall especially online dating is very overrated!
 

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Been on here for over a decade and let me tell you a girls word is meaningless half the time that's why dating overall especially online dating is very overrated!
They're.
For the context, we're talking more about that in an LTR
 

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This advice is not just with women, but useful in a leadership or coworker/community position. Too often or not, there’s a lack of sensitivity and empathy on our part, we gotta be assertive with some soft skills to balance it all out.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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