"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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- Thread starter DJ4Real
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I'll try that out."You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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I don't really know enough about the situation to know whether or not you should be apologizing. I just think the email was a bad idea because it seems like it's a lot of effort for something that doesn't seem like a big deal. I just think it's weird to write an email because a girl is pissed off at you. I would just talk to the girl about it.
And it's not that you were serious in the email that was bad, I think it's the fact that it was an email. What you said to her is the kind of thing you say to her face or on the phone or something.