"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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B-Real

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I've been dating this girl for a few months. She broke up with ME. So then she calls me today and starts griping about how her life is messed up and how she wishes she had someone like me around.

And she was the one that broke up with me. So I told her I was not gonna be her emotional tampon. Was this the wrong thing to say? Or was it just me standing up for myself and my ego.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Wow, thats a word that I think should only be used on a forum like this.

Ask yourself what you want.
 
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It all depends on

1. If you consider her a friend now
2. If you are still angry at her for breaking it off
3. If you want to get back with her

Like Maxtro said, get clear on what you want, and then proceed accordingly.
 
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moto

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Don't let you ego come in the way. If you don't want to get back with her I think you should at least help her just as a human being.
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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moto said:
Don't let you ego come in the way. If you don't want to get back with her I think you should at least help her just as a human being.
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And she should at least come over to service him too! B-Real, if that's how you felt, fine. If you feel it's a bit harsh, you may consider saying something different yet conveys the same thing. No need to keep doing anything that makes you feel like the skid marked underwear on the ass of life...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Offensive on your part or hers? because she dumps you and now she wants a shoulder to cry on and throwing drama in your life while she goes suck someone elses d1ck off?

I say good riddance. If you were to call her crying how you can't leave with out her and want her back, she would have avoided you like the plague. At least you showed some courtesy by being honest with her, you should be proud of that.
 
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'emotional tampon' is pretty crude, but, if you want her to stop calling you and crying on your shoulder, it'll do the trick.

She's gonna tell her friends about it, tho, so try not to be too much of prick when you're pushing her away. Girls talk. A lot.
 
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