"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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B-Real

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I've been dating this girl for a few months. She broke up with ME. So then she calls me today and starts griping about how her life is messed up and how she wishes she had someone like me around.

And she was the one that broke up with me. So I told her I was not gonna be her emotional tampon. Was this the wrong thing to say? Or was it just me standing up for myself and my ego.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Maxtro

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Wow, thats a word that I think should only be used on a forum like this.

Ask yourself what you want.
 

Dongfu

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It all depends on

1. If you consider her a friend now
2. If you are still angry at her for breaking it off
3. If you want to get back with her

Like Maxtro said, get clear on what you want, and then proceed accordingly.
 

moto

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Don't let you ego come in the way. If you don't want to get back with her I think you should at least help her just as a human being.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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moto said:
Don't let you ego come in the way. If you don't want to get back with her I think you should at least help her just as a human being.
And she should at least come over to service him too! B-Real, if that's how you felt, fine. If you feel it's a bit harsh, you may consider saying something different yet conveys the same thing. No need to keep doing anything that makes you feel like the skid marked underwear on the ass of life...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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DJDamage

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Offensive on your part or hers? because she dumps you and now she wants a shoulder to cry on and throwing drama in your life while she goes suck someone elses d1ck off?

I say good riddance. If you were to call her crying how you can't leave with out her and want her back, she would have avoided you like the plague. At least you showed some courtesy by being honest with her, you should be proud of that.
 

Damocles

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'emotional tampon' is pretty crude, but, if you want her to stop calling you and crying on your shoulder, it'll do the trick.

She's gonna tell her friends about it, tho, so try not to be too much of prick when you're pushing her away. Girls talk. A lot.
 
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