"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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SingAgn

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I'm new to the site and only been dating 3 months or so after my divorce. I started messaging and now texting a woman on OKC. She's cute and on her profile she lists herself as a bi, so I'm totally curious about that. Might be the best chance for a threesome opportunity. Anyway, I'm throwing out the teasing banter and it's going good. She goes silent for a couple days when we were trying to finalize the first date logistics. So I message her and tease her saying she's trying to string me along and that I'm a busy guy, implying I've got options. Apparently she has pneumonia and has been sick the last few days. She didn't like the humor and basically snaps and says we might not be a good fit and wishes me well. I debated about replying, but I do so and say I know how she feels, I've had it too and it sucks. I only admit to it being a bad time for humor and wish her well. I also offer to bring some chicken soup. She immediately texts me back saying I'm amazing and she apologizes and says we'll get together when she is better.

My question. Is that too beta or did I handle it OK by not apologizing other than by saying it was bad timing?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kailex

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If you two actually meet up and go out and something comes out of it... would it really matter?

By the way, beware the signs... if she's going to snap at you just over a text and throw away a possible quality guy like yourself... imagine what other surprises might lay in store.
 

jjacob

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Hard to tell at this point.. She could be a nice girl or that could have been her attempt at calling your bluff about having options..

I'd just watch out for her trying to use her daily life drama as leverage against you to chase her. Up next might be some story about someone making her cry at work and inevitably radio silence of feigned displeasure at your response to the situation.
 

WoodB

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SingAgn said:
I'm new to the site and only been dating 3 months or so after my divorce. I started messaging and now texting a woman on OKC. She's cute and on her profile she lists herself as a bi, so I'm totally curious about that. Might be the best chance for a threesome opportunity. Anyway, I'm throwing out the teasing banter and it's going good. She goes silent for a couple days when we were trying to finalize the first date logistics. So I message her and tease her saying she's trying to string me along and that I'm a busy guy, implying I've got options. Apparently she has pneumonia and has been sick the last few days. She didn't like the humor and basically snaps and says we might not be a good fit and wishes me well. I debated about replying, but I do so and say I know how she feels, I've had it too and it sucks. I only admit to it being a bad time for humor and wish her well. I also offer to bring some chicken soup. She immediately texts me back saying I'm amazing and she apologizes and says we'll get together when she is better.


My question. Is that too beta or did I handle it OK by not apologizing other than by saying it was bad timing?

Should you find yourself fortunate enough to engage in a threesome with two bi ladies, be prepared. You may find yourself competing for your woman's quim against another quim. This puts you into a new world which few of us are equipped to negotitiate.

If a woman is sincerely interested in you, she will accomodate you despite her current illness or let you know in various ways she is eager to engage. Your DJ radar will pick this up.
 

Greasy Pig

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A quote I found here somewhere: "A woman who is passionately interested in me will forgive any minor mistakes I make."
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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SingAgn

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Thanks DJs. I appreciate the advice.
She's been texting me a lot now.
 
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