"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Was this an alpha response or not?

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So I'm in the library last night. A girl in one of my classes calls me up asking if she could see my syllabus to get the homework for the next day. I tell her I'm in the library and can't give it to her right then so I would give it to her when I got back to the dorms (she lives across the hall). She starts complaining and wants it nowwwwwwwww (she's infamous for this). I tell her again that I'll give it back to her when I get back to the dorm and hang up before she can respond.

Was that alpha or was that still too nice? Or am I looking into this way too much (I'm still trying to figure out what "alpha" even is). Some people on these forums probably would think I'm only alpha if I demanded that she come over to the library herself to get the syllabus and that anything else is being a nice guy? I feel like my response was still "nice" but I wasn't giving in and walking back to the dorms right away to fulfill her demand.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Furyguy

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I think you're good. Sounds like you're sending the message "I don't want to put up with your ****, I will help you when it is not an inconvenience for me, now leave me the **** alone."

She knows you're not willing to bend over for her and that you don't really care about her, both good in my book!
 
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DonJerky said:
Now go print up a fake syllabus and teach her a lesson.
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Too much work. I feel like that would show I care enough to actually make a fake one.

Forgot to add that when I got back to the dorms, I chilled in my room for probably another 90 minutes before she finally texted me, wondering where I was. Only then did I actually give her the syllabus.

I know this is not some awesome alpha mood but it does help me understand exactly what "alpha" is and that will help me later on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't go to her dorm to give her the syllabus. Let her come find you to get it.
 
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CaptainJ said:
Don't go to her dorm to give her the syllabus. Let her come find you to get it.
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We live across the hall from each other.
 
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you could have just convinced her to come to you without coming across as a prick.

congratulation on not getting your **** wet.
 
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