Was this an AFC move?

[aztec1]

Hi all. Short time lurker here needing advice.

Known this girl for a little bit and she started hitting on me but I had a girl at the time. I was and still am attracted to her. Well I'm now single and we have been flirting but she has a boyfriend now. We'll text back and forth every once in a while and the past couple times her boyfriend must be reading what I type or she's showing it to him, I have no idea which. And he'll start texting me with her number telling me to backoff, don't be jealous because she's with me, she would never want to be or sleep with you and what not, ha which I found amusing. I'm not showing him any disrespect it's just harmless flirting. So i told her I'm deleting her number because it's just ridiculous. I told her if they ever break it off to give me a call. The last text I received was a **** U ******* text after I sent her the last one. I assume it was her boyfriend, lol.

I'm about having fun and a little excitement. So I played around a bit and well the dude got really mad I should say. I'm not trying to step on his toes, it was fun with her. Do you think I did the right thing telling her I'm deleting her number and to call me if they break it off or was that a chump move?
If she really cared about him wouldn't she be telling me to backoff too instead of eating up our conversations or is she just seeking attention?

 

[DJDamage]

Do you think I did the right thing telling her I'm deleting her number and to call me if they break it off or was that a chump move?

It was a chump move by just verbalizing it to her through texting.

Any girl that is showing your texts to her boyfriend, thrives on the drama and conflict that she is creating for you and her boyfriend.

A better move was to delete her number without saying anything because the bullsh1t she pulled with you has warranted that action. Also saying "to call you if they break up" makes you look AFC because it shows that you are willing to put up with her bullsh1t and even willing to wait for her (if she ever does).

 

[aztec1]

Yeah I figured she was just attention whoring or stirring some kinda jealousy game with her boyfriend. For some reason I've lost my touch on gaming women. Fizzling with age because I just don't care as much anymore I guess. So it's pretty much a done deal with her then? Just walk away and never look back right?

 

[jophil28]

If she really cared about him wouldn't she be telling me to backoff too instead of eating up our conversations or is she just seeking attention?

If she really cared about LOSING him she would not have been texting you and showing him your replies. THis is AW behavior on her part. She enjoys the drama of knowing that TWO guys are rivals for her attention. She is playing that old female game of pitting one guy against another and having her ego inflated by watching the fireworks.
You played into it nicely.