"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Was this a Sh!t test or no?

Meisterman

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Before you read this read the original post here:
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=221994


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She texted me yesterday asking me when I am available because she left a pair of pants at my apartment from when we fu*ked 2 weeks ago, and she needs to start mailing boxes back home, so she wanted to know when she could come get them.

I told her she could get them whenever she wants. She lives literally right next door. A few hours later she texts me saying she's at my door. So I open up and give her the pants. Exchange conversation very briefly, probably a minute or so. Then I say "see ya" and we part ways.

She had friends over so I don't think she wasn't trying to hang out, but she did kinda pause at the door and I'm the one who closed the conversation. I wasn't trying to pursue anything yesterday anyway. Both our apartments were full, I didn't want to see her, I already committed going till at least Thursday until reaching out to her by being scarce.

The thing is, she's not going out of state for another 2-3 weeks, so it seems weird to me she messaged me asking for her pants back, like it's a big sense of urgency or something. She also seemed friendly and enthused in the texts, but that's just in her nature.

My question is...

A) Do you think her sending that was just an excuse to contact me? AKA her hamster was spinning and she caved.
B) Or is it just a SH!T test to see how I react?
C) Or is it her trying to get me hooked again so she feels validated in going cold/NC as of lately?
D) Or is it that she literally just wanted her pants back?

I know she's done stuff like this in the past like "What time does your class end, I need a ride to the phone store to get it fixed" and "Hey do you know the campus policy for...(proceed to say something irrelevant)" almost like an excuse to text without being needy. Of course whenever I oblige for a favor, or chase her, her interest decreases without fail. That's why I know trying to escalate would have backfired anyway.

So I plan to go NC another day and then possibly hit her up tomorrow night, which was my original plan in the first place. Just trying to understand her motives better so I can use it to my advantage.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nah she definitely wanted more than the pants dude. I had a chick who was the same way. She starts losing interest, you go ghost, her hamster starts spinning again, she throws you hook line and sinker hoping you'll take the bait.

She was probably hoping you asked her to hang out, only so she could reject you and give her that ego boost and reassurance that she did the right thing by going cold to begin with. Good on you for not caving in.

My advice: make that hamster spin round and round. Play that bi*ch like a fukin merry to round. Round and round we go. I'm talking ring around the Rosie up in this bi*ch I don't play no games son. If you wanna hit her up give this bi*ch one last chance and if she flakes then that's her loss you still walk away with your pride intact and your head held high.
 

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sevenwonders777 said:
Nah she definitely wanted more than the pants dude. I had a chick who was the same way. She starts losing interest, you go ghost, her hamster starts spinning again, she throws you hook line and sinker hoping you'll take the bait.

She was probably hoping you asked her to hang out, only so she could reject you and give her that ego boost and reassurance that she did the right thing by going cold to begin with. Good on you for not caving in.

My advice: make that hamster spin round and round. Play that bi*ch like a fukin merry to round. Round and round we go. I'm talking ring around the Rosie up in this bi*ch I don't play no games son. If you wanna hit her up give this bi*ch one last chance and if she flakes then that's her loss you still walk away with your pride intact and your head held high.
That's what I think too
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sevenwonders777 said:
Nah she definitely wanted more than the pants dude. I had a chick who was the same way. She starts losing interest, you go ghost, her hamster starts spinning again, she throws you hook line and sinker hoping you'll take the bait.

She was probably hoping you asked her to hang out, only so she could reject you and give her that ego boost and reassurance that she did the right thing by going cold to begin with. Good on you for not caving in.

My advice: make that hamster spin round and round. Play that bi*ch like a fukin merry to round. Round and round we go. I'm talking ring around the Rosie up in this bi*ch I don't play no games son. If you wanna hit her up give this bi*ch one last chance and if she flakes then that's her loss you still walk away with your pride intact and your head held high.
For a first post that's some quality sh*t right there. Stick around :up:
 
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