Was this a good idea!!!

[Brasco]

I tried something that I never done or said before. This chick to witch I talk to every now and again asked me if I wanted to go to the bar next friday with her and a few friends (one male friend & 3 female friends) to see a well know band (blues band) that was going to be playing their. Normaly I would just say "yeah sure, I'll go" or just say " no, thanks for asking but I have something else on the go" . This time I said "I'll let you know by mid week if I can make, I might have to go to my home town that weekend". If it would of been just me and her going I would of never of said that, not to make her feel that I don't want to be alone with her at a bar. I might end up going but I just want to keep my options open in case something better comes up.

I think she might be interested in me a little but not sure how much or if she is just someone who is friendly. Never really spent much time with her to figure it out yet. Do you think what I said will make her lose her IL or up the IL? I don't really care, I am not that excited over her (she might be a 7 or 7.5).

 

[Mizer]

If I was interested in her, I would have accepted. You don't have to be alone on that first date or outting. Matter-of-fact, a date such as that can have less pressure than than a traditional you+her meeting for slurpees or something.

Just go. You are not all that interested so you have nothing to lose unless you ahev bigger and better options.

Mizer

 

[Brasco]

Their is a good chance I will go, but I just figured I would leave it open in case something better comes up.

 

[Chemistry]

Given the notice she's given you, an acceptance would've been cool... if it was Thursday night and she asked you that, then the fact that you didn't have plans may deter her, but how long in advance do you plan with a couple of friends for a normal night out... not a great deal

Think of the possibilities that this could provide you with even if it turns out you're not into her, and she's not into you, use her as a friend and already for this night you've got 3 females who may be what you're interested in...

For alternative replies, you could've simply said "I was thinkin' of going to see them..." or if you're not a fan of Blues, simply say that you're not a fan of Blues and refuse... altho' it may seem like a bad idea on the surface you want someone you share interests with, and making a bold statement may reveal that she's not a great fan of Blues either, she's simply goin' because her friends asked her to do so... that leaves you the opportunity to step in and single her out to work on her

As a possibility of seeming friendless, lol, explore bringin' a friend along if it really worries you...

But as a bottom line, the only way you're gonna know if she's just friendly, or if she's interested in you is to go along... she'll judge you much more on how you act on the day, she isn't gonna just make a decision over the fact that you agreed to a night out with her and a few friends like a week in advance...

 

[Brasco]

Ashley Chuckles,

I have to agree with what your saying. I figure I am going, the only reason she asked me so early is because she was going that night to pick some tickets in advance (she diggs this blues band, she wanted to make sure she had tickets). I asked her if there was a good chance I could still get in without an advance tickets, she said that they never sold out before but it hauls a good crowd. So I told her that a buddy of mine might be haven his going away party (he is moving across the country), I told her I would be talking to him this week to see if it is that weekend and if its on the friday or saturday. She seemed to understand and said " if you can come just let me know ". Maybe I should of explained all this in the first post.

I already know her friends, one of them is hot, the other two are bendable in a jam. I was talking to buddy today on messenger and the party is next saturday so I could still go with her on friday. I got nothing to lose by going, I am 75% sure she has high IL in me, my IL in her is not that high but she is cute (7/7.5) all depends on who's judging, lol.