Was this a friendship destroying night?

[Evzone]

When he first slapped you pretty hard you should have made it obvious that it wasnt ok. Fair enough you didnt want to make a scene but a 'Wtf are you doing, it was a joke you prick' was warranted.

This.

 

[teacha]

You really are naive if you think this is true just for 1 minute. Women love it when men fight because of them even if it's for the wrong reasons. It's a huge ego boost to them. They are very wicked in this regard.

Women could care less if you are right and are sincere in your apologies this girl deep inside would have loved for OP to have gotten his ass beat. He didn't beat his ass beat but OP was embarrassed and was made to look like a b|tch so I bet she was happy anyway.

THIS.

OP, never let anyone put his hands on you and think its ok to do so. It doesn't matter who's wrong and who's right but don't let anybody put his hands on you and get away with that shit. C'mon the guy hits you in the face and you did nothing except back down like a coward. It doesn't matter if he was drunk, you were drunk too!

...and people wonder why girls are attracted to jerks, its because they have a freakin backbone and don't ever let anyone treat them like their lil bitch!!!!

If you let this slide and pretend like everything is ok,your friends are gonna disrespect you again just because they think you a pussy and no, you did absolutely nothing wrong...it was a joke.

 

[Effington]

Hey guys,

As a partial follow-up to this, I hung out with one of the girls this weekend that was also there (she was actually sitting right next to me and saw the whole thing), so I was able to get some perspective.

She mentioned that the event unfolded exactly as described originally. I believe the clarification was that the girl was actually offended that I touched her face, and instead of telling me, she told her boyfriend, who proceeded to severely overreact (at least in my opinion).

In her defense, I can at least understand why a girl might be sensitive, in fact that's why I initially attempted to apologize to her. (The girl who saw it said she would not have been offended) However, the fact that I saw these events properly the first time just makes me more mad at her that she did not even talk to me, and on top of that did not even respond when I attempted to apologize to her. That's just silly. On top of that, the boyfriend was also completely out of line for causing a scene and overreacting. I used to think at least the guy had very good communication skills, too. Oh well.

All of us will be hanging out again this Friday, and I'm not sure how I'm going to approach the situation. I just know I'll be very careful not to apologize again, as I've done my duty and have not done anything wrong. Hopefully he will be man enough to realize the situation was handled improperly. As for the girl, I just won't make an effort to become any better friends with her.

 

[Cry For Love]

Hey guys,

As a partial follow-up to this, I hung out with one of the girls this weekend that was also there (she was actually sitting right next to me and saw the whole thing), so I was able to get some perspective.

She mentioned that the event unfolded exactly as described originally. I believe the clarification was that the girl was actually offended that I touched her face, and instead of telling me, she told her boyfriend, who proceeded to severely overreact (at least in my opinion).

In her defense, I can at least understand why a girl might be sensitive, in fact that's why I initially attempted to apologize to her. (The girl who saw it said she would not have been offended) However, the fact that I saw these events properly the first time just makes me more mad at her that she did not even talk to me, and on top of that did not even respond when I attempted to apologize to her. That's just silly. On top of that, the boyfriend was also completely out of line for causing a scene and overreacting. I used to think at least the guy had very good communication skills, too. Oh well.

All of us will be hanging out again this Friday, and I'm not sure how I'm going to approach the situation. I just know I'll be very careful not to apologize again, as I've done my duty and have not done anything wrong. Hopefully he will be man enough to realize the situation was handled improperly. As for the girl, I just won't make an effort to become any better friends with her.

talk to joe for fuk sake what are you waiting for.. cool it up with him then you can be buddies again, dont leave this in the air, especially for a time getting drunk again

 

[Trader]

Hey guys,

I had a bit of an odd experience a couple days ago that I've been running through my head but still can't figure out, so I thought I'd post it here to get some more feedback. My main hope here is that I'm retelling the story exactly how it occurred.

I had a get together at my place on Sunday with about ten of my closest friends. Everyone was very chill and relaxed, and for the large majority of the night we were on my roof drinking. No one was acting unusually drunk, but we all drank enough where we had to make two runs to the liquor store for refills. (Store is in walking distance, no drunk driving occurred)

It was just about 1:00am where things got weird. I was talking to one of my girlfriends Jen, and she was making fun of me because we found an item in my refrigerator that was expired. Jokingly, I pointed behind her and said something like, "At least it's not as gross as that", and when she looked behind her I put my hand next to her face, so when she turned her head forward again it hit my hand like she was slapping my hand with her face. I don't remember how she reacted but it wasn't a big deal. Funny, right?

A couple minutes go by and we're all talking together, and Jen mentioned that I slapped her...she didn't say it like she was mad or anything, and I think I made some sort of joke that she liked it or something. The whole time I had a smile on my face and was keeping everything light. Anyway, Jen's boyfriend is there and is a buddy of mine I've known for about 6 years now, and he was like, "hey, don't slap girls" and approached me like he was going to hit me. I jokingly backed away and fake used another of our friends as a shield for a few seconds, I thought it was just a funny interaction. The boyfriend, let's call him Joe, took a couple light whiffs at me but it all seemed pretty mellow. Anyway, when it stopped being entertaining after a few seconds I gave it up, but then he continued to approached me and actually smacked me in the face (open fist) pretty hard, much harder than a joke.

Everyone in the room saw the interaction and it seemed to me like they were as shocked as I was that he hit me as hard as he did, and all of them were telling me I should hit him back. It's not really my style to get into fights so I joked like, "Yeah, I should, shouldn't I?" and kind of grinned, but just dropped it. I didn't see that as being the best resolution to the situation. I don't really want to hit my friends. At that point conversation went back to normal, I think we were discussing what bar we were going to go to next.

A few minutes later one of the other guys there asks me to show him to where my other bathroom is, since the one near us had been occupied. Me and him walk down the hall and I show him, but then Joe followed us out. When I turned around, he said something like, "I can't ****ing believe you ****ing did that, what is wrong with you, don't ever do that again." He was serious and very pissed. I thought this was very odd considering what he was actually talking about, so I figured I would talk to him about it the next day... at this point I assumed he was drunk. After giving him a 'really?' look, I believe my exact words were, "This conversation is over," and I started walking down the hall back to the rest of the group.

At that point he grabbed me by the shirt and threw me against the wall, and was yelling as loud as he possibly could, "What the **** is your problem, don't you ever ****ing ever slap anyone's girlfriend, don't you ever ****ing slap someone's wife!" (I don't know why he mentioned wives, I actually thought that was odd.) It was definitely loud enough so that everyone could hear, in fact I would bet that my neighbors could also hear it clearly. It seemed like he clenched his muscles but he didn't hit me. Then he let me go and I simply walked away, didn't say a word.

When I got back to the group, I probably looked a bit shaken, at least I felt that way. I went up to Jen and said pretty sincerely, if I've offended you in anyway, I'm sorry and that was not the intention. She didn't say anything, and that's when one of the other girls got up and said that it's time for everyone to go.

Everyone left and I was cooling down for a few minutes. Then another one of the guys came back, just because he left some beer he wanted to take with. We were talking about it and it seemed his opinion was that you're just never supposed to touch girls. He mentioned that yeah, I didn't hit her, but said I shouldn't have even done what I did. I do agree with him though; if I knew she would have been offended, I wouldn't have done it...I thought it was a joke.

Anyway, the question is...should I even attempt to stay friends with Jen & Joe after this? Initially, my plan was to apologize, since I don't like having friends mad at me, but the more I think about it, the more ridiculous it sounds. First, I think Joe's actions were completely over the top and out of line. The fact that I've been friends with him for about 6 years makes it much, much worse to me. I'm also ticked at the girl for simply pushing her boyfriend to do something. I had no idea she was upset, except for at the end of the night when I apologized to her, and it appeared that she was not satisfied with this. I've hung out with her maybe 15 times over the last year since she started dating Joe and thought we were good enough friends to joke around, but I can definitely say that was a poor judgement call.

The bottom line is this, you overstepped your boundaries with your ****y/funny by slapping her.

When Joe called you out on it, you had no balls to defend yourself.