"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Was that a hell of a wrong FaceBook message?

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Long ago at a club I see a chick from my HS. I was dancing with friends and I looked at her a few times and she looked back and then we eyed each other more. She would always do the SAME thing I do when I looked at her, like mirroring me.


I was with friends and had a blast. I cares less for her...

Later, she comes up to me on the street like a real player! We never talked in HS and yet she comes and holds my waist and kinoes me and tells me I'm so cool.

She flirts with with the way she looks down and blushes.

She constantly repeats "You know me, right??" and shows me to her friend.

So, I act a little hard to get with "Well, you don't know me that well! We never talked, but I think I'd like to get you know better!"

So we talk some more with her and her friend and my friends. Then, she gives us a ride to get food because we are hungry.

I got no $$$, so she buys herself food and I am already DRUNK and I want to go home.

I ask her for a ride, some 2 "alphas", real fat guys, wanted a ride too and acted all mucho (like wouldn't get out of the car).

I asked her for a sandwich bite and like ate the whole thing lol....


THen when she drives by my dorm she takes her phone out and asks "Will we see you again" and I say "Yes, you are my FaceBook friend, I will talk to you on there!"


OK, was that dumb? Like, I don't suffer form disease of "getting a number means she likes you". I see FaceBook as means of communication too!

Do you think she misinterpreted it? Should I def. ask for numbers?




So, then a few days later I write on her FaceBook WALL (Its like MySpace comment place, for EVERYONE TO SEE) about the sandwich and I was ****ty about it!

She replied really soon in a funny manner too!



THEN, like 2 days later I write on her wall about coming to my dorm room to chill!!!!

She erases that message and never speaks to me agian...

I sent her a private message afterwards once, asking her to let me know if she wants to hang out with me and my friends like that night we met.

She never replied....



You think by publically asking her to chill in my room I made her think that I think she is a slut?


See....I lost a girl who approached me, gave me all the power....and she was like HB 8.5 with a nicest set of boobs ever!

What did I do wrong???
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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chicks are wierd bro.. Just keep tring to with her periodically.. make it seem quensidental if you can.
 

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Be careful posting that stuff on girl's walls. Better keep it on the DL.

And I wouldn't say "come hang in my dorm" I'd say "let's go have fun" or something along those lines. "come to my dorm" - to suggestive to some girls
 

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Yeah, it seems most girls are weird with me. They act so interested, and yet the only use I have for them is me and sex, lol. They don't ask for drinks or for anything else...

I had another case similar to this one.

like 70% of girls FLAKE on me with stories like THIS one.
 

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thats cause there isnt enouhg connection. try to ge the girls better and reveal more about yourself so you dont appear as just another "crazy russians"
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Oxide said:
thats cause there isnt enouhg connection. try to ge the girls better and reveal more about yourself so you dont appear as just another "crazy russians"
The more you reveal, the less mystery there is... I know for sure that when I blab out info about me - the vibe gets lost.


Do you mean connection based on things we have in common?
 

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My jaw litterally dropped when she pulled out her phone and you decided to "facebook" her instead. I skipped all the replies in here, but if I were you, ask for her number on facebook or if you can find a way to 'bump' into her or see her live again, get the number. If you don't get it, next. You screwed it.
 

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Like, totally, like, that, like, rules man..like, yah..like.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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ryannath said:
Like, totally, like, that, like, rules man..like, yah..like.
You're a ditzy girl? I always use like in typing, but never say it in front of people. Seriously.
 

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lol...like, i was just, like, talking like you do man..lol..but yeah, you screwed that up basicly when you didn't exchange numbers..lol.
 

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Yeah things in common and things you have done or want to do.

I openly talk about other girls and experiences - but I can pull it off without it seeming like I'm showing off. It is just funny stories when I am with a girl - so I tell em. Or i will tell them about what I want to do with life or whatever. Dude just talk to them like you talk to guys if you are lost.

And you made a step backwards with the whole facebook thing. Always move forward in those situations.
 

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You're a ditzy girl? I always use like in typing, but never say it in front of people. Seriously.
Seriously. :crackup: :crackup:
 

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Oxide said:
Yeah things in common and things you have done or want to do.

I openly talk about other girls and experiences - but I can pull it off without it seeming like I'm showing off. It is just funny stories when I am with a girl - so I tell em. Or i will tell them about what I want to do with life or whatever. Dude just talk to them like you talk to guys if you are lost.

And you made a step backwards with the whole facebook thing. Always move forward in those situations.
Move forward?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A part of me thinks that when a girl you have just seen, never talked to, comes to you and grabs your ass and says "you know me!" and starts flirting out of whack then the ONLY way to go forward is to grab her ass, talk to her just enough to get close to kiss her and then take her to your place...

This is how it felt because I don't know where else to go forward! Attraction - there, kino - there, hornyness - there...

However, I knew her for only TWO minutes! That other guy got laid in 15 minutes, but I felt that if I ask that girl to my place or kiss her after knowing her for TWO minutes then she will feel slutty and I will LOSE her!

You think I should've gone for a kiss without much rapport and yet with enough hornyness from her side? Or taken her to my place?
 
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