"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Was that a compliment or an insult ?

Befuddled

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A new chick just moved into our house. She is preety 'hot' by ppl's standards, tall n skinny. Guys all around her. The impression i got was that she thought she was 'all that', and was kinda frumpy.

The stereotypes of 'dumb blondes' comes to mind. Oh well, shes new n i figured i would try n just 'get along' with her, which is all good.

So i wasnt showing any interest leveles in her or anything, didnt really start conversations not much eye contact or nething.... not consciously, i just wasnt into her.

So, the other night me n a couple of the other roommates get back from the bar and she gets back too. im drunk off my arse and she says oh this house is great, Beduffled and girl1 are soo cool. i just smiled. And she keeps asking us questions, but is far more interested in what my answers are.

Tonight we are just hanging out, and we had smoked a bit of the sticky icky. she gets back from her friends, and proceeds to tell the 2 of us about her protective brother, and proceeds to say..."he's so skinny, kinda like befuddled except taller".

And there i was just stunned and laughing cause of my state of mind.

Whats up with that ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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She thinks you're small and skinny...

Maybe she likes small and skinny guys, lol...

OR maybe the smoke had her in that kinda jokin mood where she just crackin jokes like that... who knows, I'd have to meet her
 

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The words "he's so skinny" can be said in a myriad of ways that can make them seem anything from sarcastic to a plain objective statement.

Can't help you with that unless you tell us the tone she said that in.
 

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"oh my brother is so skinny... like.... like...befuddled skinny. except befuddled shorter than him so it's ok...he's a lot taller and about your weight".

She was talking about her brother n her looking out for each other, and oh yeah...she was completely sober. me n my friend were not.
 

oda

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you are a mack daddy, dont worry about it

picking up girls isnt about looks, its about the way you carry yourself... you should know that :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It wasn't an insult. It wasn't a complement but an observation made by her. You look better than her brother to her. That's a good thing.
 

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Originally posted by oda
you are a mack daddy, dont worry about it

picking up girls isnt about looks, its about the way you carry yourself... you should know that :D
yes and no.
 

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why analyze all these little things. you live in the same place as her, so you have all the time in the world to slowly build some sort of rapport with her, then you can make a move to get her out one-on-one. Then at the end of all that, you will know for sure if she is interested in you or not.

sitting around analyzing one indirect comment all day is not a DJ thing to do IMO, especially is she was smoking the icky sticky.

i wouldn't even worry about that comment. keep moving the markers forward as they say in football, little by little.
 

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good point. ive moved on. Shes smarter than i thought. A good friend of mine, who literally gets any chick he wants tried to get her to come out, but she saw right through him.... shes earned my respect.... or she could just be a lesbian... seriously.
 
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