Was seeing a few not-so-HBs. Right or Wrong??

[Ragin_Asian]

I was seeing couple of average chicks who are way below my standard (well lookswise). They both said why did you go for a girl like me when you could have picked up anyone else?? Apart from the natural shyness or LSE they were implying I coulda done better with a hotter chick.

I dunno but I seem to be smoother while just hanging out with them and good brownie points for DJ experience. The problem is that I'm kinda bit uncomfortable if everyone else knew and I'd be a bit embarassed by it. Baby steps or social suicide??

I could have pursued something serious and have them eating out of my hand but I dont want anyting to do with them after a couple of times. I just LJBF them because they have hot friends.

The problem is, if their friends or other HBs knew would they be hesitant because I went for the sub-standard girl?? I live in college and if theres any stupid stories going around then its gonna be harder for me to lay my game. I've hooked up with a sub-standard girl in college before but I kept my cool and remained friends with her and that seem to work.

Should I continue practising with average HBs or only concentrate on real HBs?

 

[Craig Reeves]

Look, date whoever you want....stop worrying about what you look like in front of other people by doing so, because I guarrantee you, nobody cares about who you are dating.

No matter who you date, SOMEBODY is going to think low of your relationship with her. Don't worry about it - you date who you want to date.

 

[Ragin_Asian]

I am only seeing them for practice...I dont really like them that much. I wouldn't have sex with them. I'm not attach to them at all but my wang is blind and is magnetically attracted to any of them.

I just don't want things to get ugly in case they get attached and get hurt. I certain dont want a clingy girl if I'm gaming a hot girl later on. I just want to take baby steps upwards til I get my hot HB9 or 10s. I'm a good looking person but inexperience and need practise.

 

[KnightRyder]

no offense but I have yet to see a good looking dj, post us some of your pics RA so we can be enlightened

 

[Ragin_Asian]

How do you post or upload your pic?? I can only put a MSN profile link.

 

[Ragin_Asian]

http://storage.msn.com/s1pZ8pl_R1n1...h3KcC21vdCb3w/00.jpg?MdToken=1660352036434869

Hope it works..just copy and paste to ya browser

and another one

http://www.hi5.com/friend/displayGallery.do?userid=2261811&pic=4503162

 

[KnightRyder]

nah neither of them are working for me man, maybe you could upload it to hotornot or wouldyouhitthis and just give us the link ??

 

[trent423]

how come your dating them if you don't even dig them? you shouldn't use chicks whether they are ugly or not, man. they have feelings too.

 

[Ragin_Asian]

try this KnightRyder.

http://www.wouldyouhitthis.com/?id=174940

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=KEAMKRH&key=EHC


Trent, I do make sure that they do have fun with me. I even do lil AFC things for them. And if I LJBF them, then I am true to my word. Guess it is like a male escort thing only I take experience over money. I dont try to get a quick f*ck out of them cos I tell them that it ain't gonna be serious.

Do you think I am actually using them? Cos if it is then I'll have to consider their feelings if they do become attached. I actually do enjoy getting to know their personalities though.

 

[Chemistry]

So un-DJ of you... lettin other peoples opinions of you rule over... a DJ will command presence in the room or social environment regardless of who you're with, if the girls you're with can bring you down then you're a long way off

What use are these girls if you're not havin sex with them? You say you're usin them for practice, but to practice what exactly?

End of the day, you define yourself... if you go for the HB5 you should have people wonderin why you've gone for that HB5, rather than puttin you down as that is all you can get...

As for girls who question why you're with them... generally they're nothin but trouble and full of insecurities so ditch them ASAP

 

[sfalexi]

Don't let us dictate whether you're using them or not. If you see a problem in it, change it. If you don't, then don't. Don't look to social acceptance of your practices to dictate whether you continue or not.

Don't worry also about what people will think about you being with a 'sub-standard' girl. Most people won't care, and the ones that do will more than likely not be man enough to tell you.

I'm sick and tired of going along with society. Screw 'public image'. I'm gonna do what I think is right, and what makes me happy.

 

[Ragin_Asian]

sfalexi and Ashley Chuckles thanks for the great input.

The practise I did was basically just running through the dynamics of conversation and getting to know them.

I still had the same old mindset of society's image. I'm trying to shake that off but keep forgetting that it keeps popping up from time to time without realising it. Guess I'm just too worried what friends think and dunno why the hell I ask for their approval.

I dunno what went on in my mind. I guess I just jumped in for a fling with these girls for the heck of it. I do tell them it aint gonna be serious. They already know I'm not in town to stay and just chillin with each others company without getting attached.

Perhaps I just dont know what the heck I want. Maybe I just want to experience what its like to be with an average girl without the baggage of an full blown HB. Maybe I'm just not sure of consequences of my actions. Maybe I'm too scared too be labelled as desperate and going for second best. Maybe I'm not being honest with myself knowing there's a sh*tload of hot AND awesome girls that I can date easily but settling for easier ones. Maybe I'm scared to leave my comfort zones to be going out with someone I'd fully fall for cos I've been hurt and burnt so I pick ones I wont likely to fall for. <----These questions which I do not know the answers yet. Im still learning. I do things with no explanations sometimes like I'm on autopilot or some sh*t. I usually have the answer as time goes by.

I'm not a full blown DJ, yet, but time will tell and I shall be patient yet taking advantage of opportunities

 

[KnightRyder]

Originally posted by Ragin_Asian
try this KnightRyder.

http://www.wouldyouhitthis.com/?id=174940

http://www.hotornot.com/r/?eid=KEAMKRH&key=EHC


Trent, I do make sure that they do have fun with me. I even do lil AFC things for them. And if I LJBF them, then I am true to my word. Guess it is like a male escort thing only I take experience over money. I dont try to get a quick f*ck out of them cos I tell them that it ain't gonna be serious.

Do you think I am actually using them? Cos if it is then I'll have to consider their feelings if they do become attached. I actually do enjoy getting to know their personalities though.

Thanks for the enlightenment, yeah there is such a thing as good looking asians out there.

 

[BLUEox117]

good for you man, women friends are fun.

 

[AMF]

Originally posted by KnightRyder
no offense but I have yet to see a good looking dj, post us some of your pics RA so we can be enlightened

Speak for yourself...

 

[ScrewIt]

look bro dont go there.

i've been where u are. I used to practice my dj techniques on this average looking girl, i thought it was all fun and stuff, and had no fear of doing it cause i didnt like her. then one time we hung out i met her hb8 friend, and guess what i tried hooking up with her. altho the average girl didnt know, unless the hb8 told her, but anyway it didnt work out and i nexted the hb8.

well for a long while we idndt hangout, altho i still do somewhat consider her a good friend. sometimes i'd run into her in the uni and she keeps mentioning we should shoot pool sometime again, i say sure. and when she does eventually call me up i dont go, my reason was real and wasnt an excuse but ah well. there were several other times in the past where we hung out that hinted shel iked me, but i dont.

altho i wouldnt mind being her friend, but since im not interested in her and dont want to give her hopes, the best way is just to cut all contact.

remember girls are humans too they got feelings. Dont mess around with their head if u dont mean it.

 

[Ragin_Asian]

Nah its all good ive stopped seeing all of them and cracked the good ol' LJBF on them. I still keep contact with them in case they have hot friends, you never know whats around the corner.

As I am not seeing anyone now I can concentrate more on myself without being tied down or having to worry about anything or anyone. Your own attention is the one of the most powerful asset and if you use it unwisely things go ugly. If you use it wisely then a lot of things start to go good on you.

It's only a few weeks til I have to go back to uni and a lot of things are improving for me and people are starting to notice it which is great. I went for a run the other day and a carful of girls did 3 u-turns to drive past me to steal an eyeful of the Ragin' Asian. Lol I shoulda pulled them over and chatted them up but I didnt wanna stop my rhythm.

 

[ShizamDaMan]

If you enjoy going out with less than stellar chicks, by all means go for it. I'm sure they'll initially treat you better than a stuck up HB9.

Don't worry about what others say either, I guarantee you more often than not whoever talks sh*t about you two is single and frustrated with girls.