Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Was it the right thing to do not lead her further?

LittleBigOne

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On holiday i met this foreign girl. Not really a babe, let's say a 7, but in behaviour and talking she catched my eye. So i asked her for going to the beach, she was excited and said yes and we had much fun. On her final day she had to take the bus to a city where she would stay in a hotel to catch a bus early the next morning.
So i told her to join me visiting this special beach on the way of that city and i would bring her to the city instead of her taking the bus. She loved that and we had great time again (with a lot of teasing, laughing) etc and we were even swimming naked.
Then we watched on a dune the sun going down and we talked (i may have revealed a bit too much but we were bonding a lot) and i used some kino and then she grabbed my arm and put her head on my chest. Good so far but then she started to tell me that she didn't want me to lead further.
I told her thats oke, that i was enjoying the moment itself. Later i told her i would not sleep with her that night because it wouldn't feel good since i want to know her as person, not as a one night stand.
I brought her to her hotel, hold her for a long moment and gave her kiss, she kissed back but not continueing. Then we said goodbye. For me it felt great and i am sure she had a good time too.

But now i start to get doubts ( a common problem for me)....
My question is did i do the right thing by not persuing further and, even more important, how do i keep contact with her without her losing interest (don't know how much she is in to me) in me or sounding needy/clingy. I defenitely want to see her again and i thinks she wants that too.

Thanks for reading and replying!

LittleBigOne
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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that depends on what you want from this girl?

you obviously didnt want a ONS.. so im guessing you like her and want a LTR?
 

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She is the kind of girl i would like to have an LTR with, or at least start to know her better and see if she is worthy. But here is the problem. I don't won't to get trapped in the friendzone by not having sex with the girl, sex with her is not my first priority. On the other hand,not having sex might be a reason to get trapped in the friendzone.
Other problem is the contact. It's now one week ago we had this 'romantic'moment on the beach. I feel like making contact with her but i don't won't to come on too strong and blow it. But if i don't do anything it's not good too.
 
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