"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Was it the right thing to do not lead her further?

LittleBigOne

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On holiday i met this foreign girl. Not really a babe, let's say a 7, but in behaviour and talking she catched my eye. So i asked her for going to the beach, she was excited and said yes and we had much fun. On her final day she had to take the bus to a city where she would stay in a hotel to catch a bus early the next morning.
So i told her to join me visiting this special beach on the way of that city and i would bring her to the city instead of her taking the bus. She loved that and we had great time again (with a lot of teasing, laughing) etc and we were even swimming naked.
Then we watched on a dune the sun going down and we talked (i may have revealed a bit too much but we were bonding a lot) and i used some kino and then she grabbed my arm and put her head on my chest. Good so far but then she started to tell me that she didn't want me to lead further.
I told her thats oke, that i was enjoying the moment itself. Later i told her i would not sleep with her that night because it wouldn't feel good since i want to know her as person, not as a one night stand.
I brought her to her hotel, hold her for a long moment and gave her kiss, she kissed back but not continueing. Then we said goodbye. For me it felt great and i am sure she had a good time too.

But now i start to get doubts ( a common problem for me)....
My question is did i do the right thing by not persuing further and, even more important, how do i keep contact with her without her losing interest (don't know how much she is in to me) in me or sounding needy/clingy. I defenitely want to see her again and i thinks she wants that too.

Thanks for reading and replying!

LittleBigOne
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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that depends on what you want from this girl?

you obviously didnt want a ONS.. so im guessing you like her and want a LTR?
 

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She is the kind of girl i would like to have an LTR with, or at least start to know her better and see if she is worthy. But here is the problem. I don't won't to get trapped in the friendzone by not having sex with the girl, sex with her is not my first priority. On the other hand,not having sex might be a reason to get trapped in the friendzone.
Other problem is the contact. It's now one week ago we had this 'romantic'moment on the beach. I feel like making contact with her but i don't won't to come on too strong and blow it. But if i don't do anything it's not good too.
 
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