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Master Don Juan
Over the past couple weeks, a couple threads I've written have revolved around this chick I've been "dating."
She's 18, smart, but also a party girl. Not the type that goes and sleeps with a different guy each time, but the type that likes to get with some friends, go out, and drink.
There were some signs that I thought might foretell a train-wreck waiting to happen. Besides her being a party girl, she also seemed rather flirtatious with many guys. Not sexually active with them, but flirtatious. Let's get into a recent example.
I am buddies with several guys in a house, who often throw parties/hangouts where everyone drinks, smokes, etc. She and her friends often go over there to hang out (that's where I met her). Anyway, a night ago, while I was not there, she became really drunk over there and ended up blacking out, and passing out in one of my buddies' beds. As he's my friend, he didn't do anything with her, but it is still a precarious situation.
One of my other buddies told me the next day she was getting very "friendly" with him that night while drunk, but after she mentioned we were going out together, he restrained from doing anything with her out of respect for me.
Situations like these make it difficult for me to trust this girl! Every time she decides to go out, I become worried as to what kind of sh*t she might end up doing, and thus sometimes I feel forced to go out there anyway, even though I might just feel like staying in.
So anyway, last night she seemed rather b*tch towards me but flirtatious with this other guy I know. While hanging out and partying a little bit, I decided I wanted to go home and told her to come with me (it was pretty late around this time...1-2 am). Well, she said she didn't want to leave, so I got pissed (note I was already rather drunk and pretty high), and told her I'm leaving anyway.
A little later that night, still pissed and thinking that she's f*cking around with other dudes, I messaged her telling her it's over between us, period, and that she can go do whatever she wants.
Since then I haven't heard anything from her. And so I'm kinda concluding that our relationship is over.
Now, a while back, when I posted a first thread about this girl, I got many responses advising me NOT to get attached to this broad, that I should simply f*ck her a couple times a week and keep it to that. Well, I guess I made a mistake. Because I DID end up getting attached to her. We DID end up going out together. And in the end, it looks like it was a bad idea.
But at the same time, I am wondering if it was partly my own insecurites about her going around and f*cking with other dudes that screwed me over here. Did I act too impulsively when just suddenly breaking it off with her? Did this make ME look inconfident? And was there a better way to handle this situation?
In the meantime, I'll continue working on other girls. I do feel a little bit down about not being with her anymore, but I'll get over it. And if possible, I'll try to f*ck her a few more times in the future, maybe try to develop a FB relationship with her instead.
She's 18, smart, but also a party girl. Not the type that goes and sleeps with a different guy each time, but the type that likes to get with some friends, go out, and drink.
There were some signs that I thought might foretell a train-wreck waiting to happen. Besides her being a party girl, she also seemed rather flirtatious with many guys. Not sexually active with them, but flirtatious. Let's get into a recent example.
I am buddies with several guys in a house, who often throw parties/hangouts where everyone drinks, smokes, etc. She and her friends often go over there to hang out (that's where I met her). Anyway, a night ago, while I was not there, she became really drunk over there and ended up blacking out, and passing out in one of my buddies' beds. As he's my friend, he didn't do anything with her, but it is still a precarious situation.
One of my other buddies told me the next day she was getting very "friendly" with him that night while drunk, but after she mentioned we were going out together, he restrained from doing anything with her out of respect for me.
Situations like these make it difficult for me to trust this girl! Every time she decides to go out, I become worried as to what kind of sh*t she might end up doing, and thus sometimes I feel forced to go out there anyway, even though I might just feel like staying in.
So anyway, last night she seemed rather b*tch towards me but flirtatious with this other guy I know. While hanging out and partying a little bit, I decided I wanted to go home and told her to come with me (it was pretty late around this time...1-2 am). Well, she said she didn't want to leave, so I got pissed (note I was already rather drunk and pretty high), and told her I'm leaving anyway.
A little later that night, still pissed and thinking that she's f*cking around with other dudes, I messaged her telling her it's over between us, period, and that she can go do whatever she wants.
Since then I haven't heard anything from her. And so I'm kinda concluding that our relationship is over.
Now, a while back, when I posted a first thread about this girl, I got many responses advising me NOT to get attached to this broad, that I should simply f*ck her a couple times a week and keep it to that. Well, I guess I made a mistake. Because I DID end up getting attached to her. We DID end up going out together. And in the end, it looks like it was a bad idea.
But at the same time, I am wondering if it was partly my own insecurites about her going around and f*cking with other dudes that screwed me over here. Did I act too impulsively when just suddenly breaking it off with her? Did this make ME look inconfident? And was there a better way to handle this situation?
In the meantime, I'll continue working on other girls. I do feel a little bit down about not being with her anymore, but I'll get over it. And if possible, I'll try to f*ck her a few more times in the future, maybe try to develop a FB relationship with her instead.
