Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Stud No1

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Here's the situation guys...bear with me, its slightly long...

I kissed this girl earlier this year in a random encounter, it turned out she was a friend of a friend. Anyway, no biggie and I hadn't seen her since...until last night. So we hit it right off (getting on well), all go out as a group. I didn't hang about with her too much though though, i think i just wound her up a bit and brushed her off as a joke - i was a bit drunk and was more interested in wandering about talking to girls etc..

So, thinking no more about it really (and kissing another girl - she didn't see or anything), when she got home she called me telling me to come back to my friends house she wanted to see me. I came back at my leisure (about an hour late) and we stayed up til 5 making out and stuff. I actually quite like this girl, she's pretty hot (solid objective 6.5, and imo 7 with potential to be higher) and VERY easy to get along with. Would, at first guess, seem to be quite my type.

Next morning (this morning) i wake up and realise i left something at the house, gave her a buzz and came around to get it. Sober, worried she mightn't be as hot as i thought - i popped round for a cuppa tea and to get my forgotten item...we get on great and i give her a kiss before leaving. We both obviously like each other already.

So she's out tonight and im just out at dinner with my family as she knows. Im home in bed and she's texting me telling me she wants me to "see her new dress". Im like, sorry babe but im taking it easy 2night, but definately another time. Disappointed, she replies all annoyed saying she can take a hint. 5 minutes later she rings me begging me to come up (as she waited up for me the night before). Im like....i just....cant because im at home with my parents theyd think im mad heading out at this time for no reason. I sense obviously that drinks involved and that i made such a strong impression in our first encounter(s) she got tipsy and really wanted to see me. I suppose that's the buzz about meeting someone at the beginning .

So is it spontaneous to drive up (10 miles) meet her and im sure get a bit of action (shes not a slut.....well i dont think so but ill try find out if im wrong) or do what ive done, stick to my guns and show her she can't say jump and i say how high? (im not that type of guy so no point being like that anyway.

...Ok she's clearly drunk cuz she just texted me saying how she thinks im so sweet blah blah blah and admits shes drunk lol. I like her but she's coming on a bit strong to say the least.

Now, i like a girl that doesn't waste my time and play games but obviously this is a bit overly direct, esp if she's not just a slut looking for sex (again, im pretty sure that's not her game...but time will tell ;) )

Why is it that girls that like me REALLY like me and girls that don't, just don't. No real happy medium in my experience. Hmmm.

So, advice please....do i just play it cool and semi-offend her or go with it? What would you do in my position 2night, would you collect her with such short notice? The way i see it, i play it my way and see how it goes, but maybe some of you DJ's might play it differently at the early stages?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"I actually quite like this girl, she's pretty hot"


"drive up (10 miles) meet her and im sure get a bit of action"


I'm failing to see the dilemma. Bang this girl, then you can play joe cool for a while if you want. But by all means, go get you some.

She has made multiple efforts to see and kiss you. She is clearly interested. The fish has taken the bait, now all you have to do is go real it in.
 

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magickarl said:
"I actually quite like this girl, she's pretty hot"


"drive up (10 miles) meet her and im sure get a bit of action"


I'm failing to see the dilemma. Bang this girl, then you can play joe cool for a while if you want. But by all means, go get you some.

She has made multiple efforts to see and kiss you. She is clearly interested. The fish has taken the bait, now all you have to do is go real it in.
Haha true. But, i dunno, getting out of bed at her command after knowing her for a day or so? The way i see it, if she's worth it she'll stick around, if not then i suppose i should have just meet up and got my action.

High value doesn't run after a girl so easily, right?
 

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Overkill.

You can establish your independence non-neediness after you've gotten the *****. As far as this forum goes, I think that most guys' primary concern is to get laid.

It's not really at her command so much as her request. When she sent you that message, she probably knew in her head that sex is what was going to happen. She understood that she was giving something up for your time.

It's not like she was snapping her fingers saying "Come here and **** me now!", and even if she did, I would still imagine it is a win-win situation for you. :up:

If she sent a text asking you to go run an errand for her or something, it would be entirely different. However, to me it sounds like she is just trying to win your affection by giving up some tang.

So in the end your only dilemma is this: Is banging this cute girl worth $4 of gas to you?
 

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Part of this may be your problem-how good can you stand it? If you don't think you are worthy of a girl like this, you WILL screw it up. Some girs know what they want and get it-some of them are normal and some need to be weeded out for basic personality disorders. Just because she lets you know she's interested shouldn't disqualify her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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