was i right to next her?

[princesimba]

Am i right to next a girl who:
- was my friend. hot
- Always silently distances herself from me whenever an attractive male stranger passes by, by walking a few steps away from me so that i wouldnt notice (but i did), and the stranger will have not have the impression that we're a couple (1st red flag)
- Starts dating me
- Told me explicitly she isnt going out with any other guy (not that i asked. not sure why she said)
- Dates another guy (!@#$) while dating me
- Lies to my face when i asked her what she was doing on friday nights (dating that !@#$)
- Insists she did nothing wrong when i confronted her (i NEXTED her at this point)
- FEW MONTHS LATER, contacts me to apologize. Wants us to "start over again"
- is already the girlfriend of that !@#$ at this point, but still refuses to tell me

This is my best attempt at making her sound like a b1tch. I refused to give her a second chance becos 1. she waited too long, not sincere, 2. shes someone else's gf at that point, and still refuses to tell me. She replied sadly "sigh, its okay i understand". At thats the last i heard from her. Those words will haunt me to this day.

few days later i learnt she was happily going out with that !@#$ again. Made me feel less bad about not forgiving her. But still...

The point is, i just wanna know if i did the right thing by next-ing a manipulative b1tch, or if she was simply following her instincts. A girl's gotta find a man, after all... nothing wrong with that

 

[seethehoop]

It sounds similar to my situation, I've nexted her. Well I say I've nexted her, she has a new BF so realistically she nexted me but she re-opened comms after six weeks of silent treatment to tell me she had a new BF. I haven't responded, I'm not happy with her giving me the silent treatment, I decided to move on before she broke the silence.

I think your girl wants the same as mine. She wants to have her cake and eat it. she wants to have the BF to stick it to her and you be the emotional BF who she can play with and mess with your head. Lead you on and watch you squirm. Then when you crack she will have a massive ego boost but know she can just play it off as "I thought we were just friends, you know I have a bf"

Don't do that to yourself. It's really not worth it. I bet she has said things to you to lead you on in the past too. Bought gifts for you or made something for you. It's just to pull you in so you can stroke her ego. Walk away please for your own sake.

One last bit of advice, don't hold it against her even if she is a grade A B**** it's not worth the negative energy man, that S*** will just eat away at you. Round it all up and let it go. Trust me you will feel better for not harbouring negativity, this applies to anyone in your life. Resentment is no good for you.

 

[SeymourCake]

I don't see why you would even ask this question in the first place.

 

[SgtSplacker]

How are you gathering all this intelligence on her? Are you 100% sure, because it seems this girl really can't tell you are totally on to her. Good job on your part Captain PI...

Regardless, never throw away trim, you downgrade it to fvck buddy status and keep on trucking.

And make sure you wear condoms with this one, she sounds stupid and slvtty, bad combo..

 

[konmai]

girl's got no respect and is wishy-washy. you shouldn't even have to ask this question.

 

[SoSuave666]

You could have done a lot worse than next her and you would have been justified.

 

[princesimba]

"I don't see why you would even ask this question in the first place."

Why? Too stupid a question? Or becos it should be a no brainer

"How are you gathering all this intelligence on her? Are you 100% sure, because it seems this girl really can't tell you are totally on to her. Good job on your part Captain PI..."

Lol, lets just say that my work involves personal information of people flowing here and there. Nahh, im not a PI LOL

To all those who say im justified to next her, thank you very much for your encouragement. I just need to know what separates doing the right thing from being just plain cruel

 

[juicywa]

you're the one who's hurting brah. you're thinking about her right now aren't you? she's sucking that dudes huge **** as we speak.

 

[omega05]

You have to run to an internet forum to ask other guys if you did the right thing...

 

[Who Dares Win]

Am i right to next a girl who:
- was my friend. hot
- Always silently distances herself from me whenever an attractive male stranger passes by, by walking a few steps away from me so that i wouldnt notice (but i did), and the stranger will have not have the impression that we're a couple (1st red flag)
- Starts dating me
- Told me explicitly she isnt going out with any other guy (not that i asked. not sure why she said)
- Dates another guy (!@#$) while dating me
- Lies to my face when i asked her what she was doing on friday nights (dating that !@#$)
- Insists she did nothing wrong when i confronted her (i NEXTED her at this point)
- FEW MONTHS LATER, contacts me to apologize. Wants us to "start over again"
- is already the girlfriend of that !@#$ at this point, but still refuses to tell me

This is my best attempt at making her sound like a b1tch. I refused to give her a second chance becos 1. she waited too long, not sincere, 2. shes someone else's gf at that point, and still refuses to tell me. She replied sadly "sigh, its okay i understand". At thats the last i heard from her. Those words will haunt me to this day.

few days later i learnt she was happily going out with that !@#$ again. Made me feel less bad about not forgiving her. But still...

The point is, i just wanna know if i did the right thing by next-ing a manipulative b1tch, or if she was simply following her instincts. A girl's gotta find a man, after all... nothing wrong with that

That alone is a reason to drop her for many items:

1)She is not considering you a high value man with all that comes from it

2)She is a cheap shot to your self-confidence and self esteem, and thats the worst of all cause it strongly hurt your life quality.

3)What kind of b1tch would go out with a guy she doesnt even consider as her pair?

Im sure that a girl that piss you off but still make you feel like a hero is much better than one who doesnt annoy you but make you feel like a second choice.